Limitations surround us. There are rules. There are guidelines. There are laws. There are restrictions. There are checks and balances. There are governing bodies. There are regulations. There are caps. There are ceilings. These limits hold you back. For your protection, the world we live in provides parameters. These limits keep you safe. I believe in limits. I want a speed limit through my neighborhood. I want to know that harmful behaviors will have consequences. I want a law book and a court system that governs with equity. I want every human to abide by a standard of behavior that.
Art is an expression of the artist. At the heart of the artist is a sincere desire to communicate. The same applies to someone who loves. When an individual expresses their appreciation, desire, or heart, the world becomes more beautiful. Vincent van Gogh agreed when he stated, “I feel there is nothing more artistic than loving people.” The vibrant individual embraces this ideal becoming an artist with love as her medium. Here are four strategies for making love a form of art. Begin by loving yourself first. Lucille Ball stated, “Love yourself first, and everything falls into line. You really.
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Time management and living a Vibrant Life is about a focused way of being in the world. Order in our lives creates a framework for both the present moment and the future. My mentor, Ann Starrette, introduced me to the idea of a “Personal Rule of Life.” It is a way of opening ourselves in a consistent manner for the work of transformation. Ann is a spiritual director. She serves as the Director of Spiritual Formation at Davidson United Methodist Church and is the proprietor for the Starrette Farmhouse. When she teaches about developing a Personal Rule of Life, she.
January is a call to return to your potential! There is an energy in the air that excites and energizes. [Tweet “The key is to not only feel the energy of your potential but to harness it.”] Energy is fuel for forward motion. The goal is to use your energy to plan and plot what 2017 could potentially be! Every year of your life can be a new chapter that you write with intention and attention. Just like a great novel writer, you too, can develop a story, create a new chapter of your life and step into it. In.
A good deed brightens a dark world. This is evidenced by a radically generous “yes” to an unfathomable situation. Mary was instructed to bear the son of God. She was confounded and concerned. Her future and the possibility of a future husband at risk, Mary accepted the opportunity to be generous. In fact, she celebrated with a magnificent song of praise. Mary gave glory to God that she was given the opportunity to give the world the greatest gift in history. She declared God’s generosity! “My soul magnifies the Lord, 47 and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, 48.
(Part Three in a Three Part Series) Taking action is the third step in building confidence. The absolute truth about life is: Nothing changes if nothing changes. In my last two blogs, I have asked you to do several things. Let’s review. In service to building your confidence, Choose the mindset of willingness. Shut down resistance! Simply step over the line into this way of being. Every day ask yourself this powerful question, What am I ready, willing and able to do? Create a mission statement for work and life. This work helps you harness yourself to the work you were.
(Part Two in a Three Part Series) In my previous blog, The First Step in Building your Confidence, you decided to become willing. Don’t go any farther until you are willing. Without willingness, there is no confidence. [Tweet “With willingness, you have the spirited desire to check if you are able.”] In your lifetime, I am sure you’ve heard the phrase “ready, willing and able.” The origin of the phrase is vague. It has been used by both the legal field in the contracting stage and in the military as a call to service. In a legal contract, both parties.
My Journey Back To Joy “Grief only exists where love lived first!” – Franchesca Cox Loss is everywhere, sprinkled throughout our lives, from childhood into old age. Some losses are shrugged off without much thought or acknowledgement – others are managed, navigated and quickly set aside, but others are so big we can’t ignore them. They lay us on the floor with sorrow, and the grieving process takes hold of us completely. Recognizing the actual regularity of loss, and the proven ability you have to work through loss and move forward with your life allows you to take control of.
Confidence is an energy that is formed and strengthened by taking next right steps. Confidence building is huge! Building this energy is essential to living a Vibrant Life because, confidence creates the conduit for the development of all other abilities… possible. If you want to really live vibrantly… that is radiating your genius into the world, on mission, in service to making the world a better place…confidence must be built, stored, and at the ready. This will take willingness. To have confidence, you must work on your willingness. Willingness is your internal gumption! Willingness is a spirited initiative and resourcefulness that makes all things possible. You have got to.
It’s time for Halloween! I was trying to think of a scary costume for a party. Then my experience as a life coach kicked in, and I thought a little deeper. As disturbing as the ghosts, goblins, zombies, and witches might seem, do you know what I find scary? A real life lived like a zombie, without intention. Imagine life: Unfeeling, unthinking, unmanaged, uncaring, and undeveloped. Yikes, wouldn’t that be a nightmare? Here are four things that I find particularly scary: Living your life unwilling to be brave. Take a chance on yourself. We all need to find that steely.
“Life is a miracle. YOU are a unique expression of this purposeful miracle. Think of how GREAT that makes you. Live BIG!” – Steve Maraboli As I assess what I can be sure of, things about which I have no certainty at all often confront me. So I probe my deepest beliefs – those which that lurk in the shadows and those that dance in the light – and find new ways to present the truth as I see it. I for sure believe in miracles. For me, a miracle is seeing the world with light in your eyes. It’s.
“Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.”-Anonymous Any vibrant woman knows that the truth must be shared. And truth be told, we don’t tell the truth. Instead, we placate, tolerate, judge, and become offended by the behavior around us. This phenomenon is a plague on our personal growth and the growth of the people brought together by the formation of teams. When there is room for improvement in someone’s behavior or performance, and you see it, it is a gift to share your observation. It is even better if you can offer a suggestion that.
Have you ever said, “there’s just not enough hours in the day?” Here are some common mistakes we all make in managing our energy and time. 1 – Not paying attention to your most creative time Do you know when you’re at your most creative? Take note. Tasked with creating a solution to your problem, when are you at your best? How can you create an atmosphere and a ritual whereby you ready yourself for creative activity? Schedule routine meetings and tasks at times when you’re not feeling as bright. 2 – Overscheduling- not being realistic I know you’re great.
“To love what you do and feel that it matters – how could anything be more fun?” -Katherine Graham Quick, when was the last time you had a play date or laughed so hard you could barely catch your breath or kicked off your shoes and partied – if not till dawn at least till the 11 O’clock news? When was the last time you did something for the sheer fun of it? Jumped on a trampoline? Called in sick to work and went shopping? Had a 2 a.m. night on the town with five of your closest friends? Sound.
Do I need coaching? This question was posed to me by an individual who inquired about my “line of work.” My succinct answer without hesitation was “Yes.” Coaching is for individuals who want one, two or three of the following: Help achieving some kind of change Assistance learning a system, a set of strategies, or adopting fresh mental model (That’s what I call “Smarts!”) To reach a new level of individual performance You’ve heard the saying, If you are not growing you are dying. Well, it’s true! In the world of coaching, we call that being stuck. If you’re stuck… …you’re.
If you were writing a book where you shared the real story of your life, what would it say? From birth to today, what would be your storyline? What is the purpose of your character? Did troubles give rise to overcome, or to ruin? What makes the difference? Resilience? Luck? How do you see yourself? What story are you buying? When I was a child, I loved to hear stories. It could be either one that was true or those that someone had created. But in my household, there was also another meaning of the word story. I remember being.
My brother had a disturbing thing happen at his mountain house. He called the pest service to come and spray for some spiders, which had become a nuisance. At the house, they have a security system that is motion activated. It starts to record if it senses any movement inside. My brother knew the pest folks would be coming into spray and checked the video footage to make sure the service had been performed. [Tweet “However, when he viewed the footage, he was surprised by what he saw.”] After spraying that morning, this service tech stopped and opened the refrigerator..
I was listening to a radio show one morning when I heard the “shock jock” make a disparaging comment about life coaches. The message was negative and highly judgmental, and it stung. Was his message true and accurate? No, it wasn’t. So why did I let it bother me? [Tweet “Some of our basic human needs are to be accepted, to be respected, and to make a difference. “] Everybody struggles with those needs, and they will, from time-to-time, be slapped down. His remarks made me feel disrespected and unaccepted because of my career choice. Should I have given up.
This month I would like to explore one of the defining values of my life: truth. Both privately and in my work, I have always been a truth seeker. Not a day goes by that I don’t look for it, consider how I can use it to evolve into all that the Creator intended for me – and then seek to extend that truth to others. [Tweet ““You never find yourself until you face the truth.” – Pearl Bailey”] “Ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free” – John 8:32 has always been one of my.
Constantly, I have people quip that communication is a huge problem in their company. I get it. It’s a side effect of our accelerated, frenetic, and technological world. The worst strategy I see people try to use is hope. They hope people will change. They hope the world will change. They hope they will win the lottery and get to quit their job. Hope is a beautiful ideal but a terrible strategy. Instead of hoping things will change, use these seven tips for improving communication in your company beginning with YOU. 1. As the leader, communicate clearly, succinctly and in writing.
Have you ever glibly said, “Not my circus, not my monkeys?” This is usually said in response to hearing about someone else’s troubles where you don’t want to involve yourself. But what happens, when you turn around and find that it is your circus, and they’re your monkeys? In an instant, everything can change. You are the one in the center ring. Your child is in trouble. Your marriage is on the rocks. You’ve lost your job. A parent has died suddenly, without a will. Your nearly perfect and well-ordered life can be turned upside down. The spotlight is on.
I know you’ve all heard the saying “You win some, you lose some;” but have you ever felt like you lose some and then lose some more? I think most of us have felt that way at one time or another. You may look at others and think they’re always winning (like Charlie Sheen, lol.) The fact is, everybody loses from time to time. You might not see it happen, but it does. Learning how to deal with disappointment is an important skill that successful people have mastered. In my last blog, I wrote about perseverance. You have to know.
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” ~George Eliot Can you believe fall is already upon us? Summer is winding down and the hustle and bustle of back to school is in the air. [Tweet “New seasons bring new beginnings. “] Beginnings are so full of promise…they offer us another chance for change, if we’ll take it. I hope in this blog, you’ll find something you need to move yourself forward. Cheers to another month…and another chance to get it right – to reassess and reinvent our lives in a way that moves us forward..
Look for the helpers Sometimes it’s difficult to understand when bad things happen to good people. An adverse incident may prompt a time of confusion and hurt. We may struggle to make sense of a forced time of reflection. We may even be resistant to asking for essential support. But if we will accept the help we need and utilize the time wisely, we can come out better and stronger than before. My dear friend Lisa broke her arm recently, ending up in a cast for many weeks. It was a painful experience, and I remember her saying quite forcefully,.
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill. Have you ever heard the saying “Fail forward, but never give up?” Perseverance is one of the most important skills to have if you want to succeed. Maybe you were born with it, or maybe it’s something you have to learn. But one thing is sure, if you don’t persevere, you won’t get what you want. [Tweet ““I’ve failed over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.” Michael Jordan”] You might struggle while trying to fulfill your hopes and dreams, but.
“Creativity comes from trust. Trust your instincts.” – Rita Mae Brown “We all need to have a creative outlet – a window, a space – so we don’t lose track of ourselves,” says poet and Zen teacher Norman Fischer. One year he wrote one 28-line poem every morning, later collecting them in a book, Success (Singing Horse Press). “What we want on our path to freedom is a way to understand what’s going on with us.” Art is a necessity for humans because art making is outside the box of everything that oppresses us. Everything in our lives today is.
If you find yourself suddenly single through divorce, death or other circumstance, you may be asking “now what?” Because life has changed dramatically, you may feel ill prepared for the future. The unknown is almost always unsettling, at least initially. But you can work through this unease. It’s time to take a deep breath and recognize the opportunity in what might have been heartbreak. [Tweet “Ask yourself who you want to be in your new life. And what would you like that life to look like?”] The first step is self-assessment. Knowing who you are becoming in this process will.
Let’s face it, if you are part of a team, chances are high a problem or two will pop up along the way. Personalities may clash, morale may be low, and performance may be hindered if team issues aren’t addressed and corrected. As the manager of a team, the goal is to promote success and provide an atmosphere where people feel proud to be part of the team. Team building exercises can help, but before going that route, take a look at a few basic principles that may help build the cohesiveness you desire. Have a clear mission statement and.
“He has achieved success, who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much.” – Bessie A. Stanley, Author How many of you remember the game show, “The Weakest Link”? We loved how the host bluntly tells the contestant: “You are the weakest link, good-bye!” Ironically, you are the strongest link! Being successful is an American obsession. We are bombarded with the notion of it everywhere we turn: Commercials. Billboards. Top 10 lists. Who’s the best, the hottest, the boldest? That’s why this is one of the most important questions you can ask yourself: Have I defined what success means for.
Just like the grocery store has an overwhelming variety of choices for any one item you might need, you live in a world where the competition to be chosen for the job, the loan, the business, or the relationship is challenging. What sets one ketchup apart from another isn’t usually the actual quality of the ketchup but instead it is the brand that sets it apart. The same is true for you! If you create a brand for yourself that makes people stop and notice who you are and what you have to offer, you will shine compared to others..
Before it happened to me, I naively thought that divorce was something other people did. I didn’t understand how long-time marriages fell apart or how deeply divorce affects people until it was part of my life. If your marriage is on the rocks, you might quickly have one of these reactions. You question everything. How could this happen? Was I asleep during my married life? How did I miss the signs that my marriage was disintegrating? Was I not a good spouse, not pretty/handsome enough? Could the marriage be saved, or is it time to let the relationship go? What.
Self-care is critical if you want to be your best self. When you do not prioritize self-care, stress and burnout will often show up as symptoms. Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted by stress can have a negative impact in all areas of life. Burnout presents itself in several ways. Listed below are a few of the symptoms. Thinking more negatively about life Having lower levels of life satisfaction Feeling a sense of emotional emptiness Lower levels of energy and higher levels of fatigue Having more conflicts with others Missing a sense of purpose in day to day living Stress isn’t pleasant.
What’s your reputation? Are you perceived by your colleagues and customers as a true professional? The definition of a true professional is an individual who takes care to present themselves in the best light. In fact, they often are the light that shines most brightly in the room. The way a true professional presents himself is not just a show. It is a sincere demonstration of character, common sense, and concern for the greater good. Being a professional has little to do with your rank, position or status in an organization. Instead, it is about generously giving of your strengths, talents, and gifts.
You’ve agreed to join a non-profit board, but you’re new to this thing called board service. It may be called a charity, but it is a non-profit business that you will be overseeing. Now what do you do & what are the expectations? Here are eight ways to get off to a good start with some assessment and self-assessment. Your executive director will expect these things of you: Attend your orientation and read the By-laws and materials. It may sound simplistic, but to make sure all board members are singing from the same songbook, it’s a good idea to make.
Have you ever thought about how we use food in this country? We eat to celebrate (birthdays, promotions, etc.) We eat when we’re down. He didn’t get the job he wanted. He’ll feel better if I fix his favorite meal. We eat when we socialize. Hey, let’s get together and grab a bite to eat! We munch while watching football. What would the Super Bowl be without wings and beer and chips and dip? We even chow down to watch movies. Who goes to the theater and doesn’t get a pound of popcorn and a super large soda? Holidays –.
At its best, family is the home we carry inside us, a haven in a troubled world. And even at its most trying, family still helps us, expanding our capacity for tolerance and escorting us (sometimes kicking and screaming) into new realms of understanding. These days, notion of family extend to an ever-wider community, embracing steps, exes, coworkers, friends, and even helpful strangers. Whether we’re linked by blood, marriage, adoption, or affection, the holidays offer a variety of opportunities to celebrate the bond. [Tweet ““Many men can make a fortune but few can build a family” – J.S. Bryan”] This.
Join Nicole Greer, PPCC for the third installment in the Brain Booby Trap Series! This episode, “Move from Can’t to Can” is a simple shift in mental models that invites you to move from the negative perspective into the positive. This simple shift requires two things: Action Commitment If you want your life to rocket to new heights, you’ll need to create “escape velocity.” Escape velocity is the speed necessary for a space craft to escape the gravitational pull of the earth. The technical definition is: the lowest velocity that a body must have in order to escape the gravitational attraction.
How do you S.H.I.N.E. when life gives you lemons? I was listening to Tony Robbins the other day and his Unleash the Power Within CD. He was talking about recipes and how they are a strategy for success. A recipe is just a plan for consistently getting the results you want. I had never really thought about a recipe regarding strategy. I usually thought of strategies in business not culinary terms. But I realized he was right. We need strategies for when we face life’s difficult moments. I thought about how relatable the strategy/recipe analogy was. As a coach, did I.
Have you ever felt like you were waiting for a storm to hit? I don’t mean a thunderstorm. I mean something big was about to happen in your life, and it might not be good. You knew the wind was coming, but you didn’t know its strength or how hard it would knock you down. Would you fall easy and land in tall, soft grass; or would you be shoved full force backward and land heavily on the pavement? Sometimes things happen that make us feel like we’ve been knocked to the ground. It could be a divorce, the loss.
It has been said that there are two types of friends: friends of time and friends of like mind. The first – pals from your old neighborhood, summer camp, our first job – give our lives community; the second – soul mates who share our interests, values, and goals – give our lives possibility. Both stir our capacity to care and connect, or as the writer Anais Nin once said, “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive.” [Tweet ” “Friends are born, not made.” – Henry Adams”] I wouldn’t be who I.
The phrase ‘booby trap’ is derived from the Spanish word bobo that translates to daft, naive, simple, clown, or one who is easily cheated. The word itself sounds silly…ridiculous. Similarly, it is silly…ridiculous…daft…naive…simple…to not challenge our own thinking. When we fail to do self-assessment, we end up looking like a clown cheating ourselves out of our most vibrant life. This is a second installment in my plea for humanity everywhere to exercise metacognition. Metacognition is the act of thinking about how you are thinking. The individuals I work with engage in coaching so that they can excel, reach a goal,.
Live a Vibrant Life by creating good habits with everlasting dividends. Habits change everything. Good habits create health, wealth and make your best self. Bad habits create pain, disdain, and brain drain! We totally stand in choice about our habits. While there is a ton of brain science about how habits are formed, pages of research, and bunches of blog posts on the topic, the reality is simple. We must simply decide what to say “Yes!” to and what to say “No!” to. This month I want to encourage you to a new kind of “to do” list. This “to.
In the process of reinvention, there is a period of self-reflection. We often look back and kick ourselves around about what might have been, what could have been, and the should have beens. Are you full of regrets? How productive is that? Not! We can’t live in the past. Regret is a mourning process over a step taken, or not taken, and feeling guilty for a decision. [Tweet “Whenever you visit the land of regret, prepare to be buffeted by negative emotions.”] It is a place of shame where you can quickly fall into potholes of pity. Then you waste.
Have you ever said those words to yourself? If you have, this blog is for you. Believing those words is what led me to coach. I did some soul searching and realized it was up to me to find out what else was out there. I am a mom of three who spent 15 years at home with my kids. My children were growing up and no longer needed me as much as they had. It was time for me to find out what more was out there. I thought about going back to work in the corporate world. That.
What are you thinking? This is a very good question. [Tweet “The more powerful question is: How are you thinking?”] Our thinking, our quality of thinking, creates our world. Just think about it. What runs through your mind runs your world. Join Nicole Greer, PPCC a.k.a. the Vibrant Coach to explore your thought life! You’ll learn about mental models, managing brain booby traps, and making lemonade. The individual who can master their own recipe for turning a sour situation into a sweet one lives a vibrant life. Listen in… let’s get started!
I have been accused. People have pointed out plainly that I have a character trait that is noteworthy. Twice this month, on purpose without remorse, boldly, individuals have looked me in the face and stated, “You are an optimist.” While their words aimed to bring me shame, I rejoice in the fact that I… Take the High Road See the World through Rose Colored Glasses Love to play the “glad game” of Pollyanna In both instances, these interactions involved people who wanted to… Wallow in the Mire Have a Pity Party Stay Stuck Between a Rock and a Hard Place.
Your boss asks you to come up with a new idea to help in the workplace. The next words that automatically come out of your mouth are, “I’m not creative.” That line is usually accompanied by a suggestion of who IS creative. It always pains me to hear people sell themselves short. But why do people come to this conclusion so often? How can you find that place of creativity within yourself? Casting away kneejerk, reactionary responses, and reserving judgment will help you find your creative ideas. Try getting into that place of childlike curiosity to find your creativity. When.
Blessings can be found anywhere you look for them. I’m writing these words at a very difficult time in my life. I just lost my niece. A niece whom I loved dearly. She was only 31 years old and had suffered from an illness for ten years of her short life. Although there is no way to make sense of our loss, I choose to look at the blessings I have realized since her passing. The first blessing is the fact that we had her for 31 years. She was bright, bubbly, beautiful, and so very funny. She was kind.
“The Journey is the reward” – Chinese Proverb My favorite subject to contemplate – the journey of life. Oh, the possibilities every one of us has along that road! What paths will lead you to your highest good? Where do you want your life to take you? What choices will you have to make to get there? I‘ll be the first to admit that change is hard. But, as we all know change is inevitable, it is a natural process of life. It is healthy. Learning how to create and manage your response to change is crucial if you are.
Being bold is easy. Bold is defined by Merriam Webster as a willingness to take risks. The character trait of boldness does not develop. It is in you at birth. Think about the insatiable curiosity of a babies. They stretch, wiggle, grasp, and desire to taste anything in their path. Think about how quickly toddlers demand what they want. They light up with delight, squeal, and wave their arms frantically to signal what they desire. Think about the enthusiasm of a preschooler who explores one activity after another in their classroom unashamed to declare their territory, their role, and their.
The Art of Dialogue is not a cute title for this podcast. Talking, conversing, and communicating takes style, panache, and moxie. It’s important to understand that creating a tete-a-tete of value requires serious skills. In today’s rapid-fire environment, the individual who can slow the pace and create an exchange of information that opens up everyone’s neural passageways is going to look like a genius. It’s counter-cultural to insist on reflection, mindfulness, and feedback. AND… HELLO… LISTENING TO EACH OTHER! But, that is exactly what you and your organization needs. In this episode, I, Nicole Greer aka The Vibrant Coach, will.
Finding Integrity I noticed on a recent airline flight that the crew always pulls the curtain between the first class section and the regular cabin. The curtain was so flimsy that you could see straight through it. I wondered why they bothered. It occurred to me that they weren’t fooling anyone. We saw the passengers getting their drinks and dinner first. We heard them eating, and clinking their silverware. We smelled their food. We saw right through their ruse. We knew what was going on in the first class cabin. I started thinking about how many times we try to.
[Tweet “And choosing confidence is essential to living a vibrant life.”] Let’s take a look at an amazing definition of confidence. This definition comes from Dan Sullivan. He states, confidence is an ability to transform fear into focused and relaxed thinking, communication, and action, with the result that dangers become opportunities, obstacles become innovations, and weaknesses become advantages, and setbacks become breakthroughs. I love this robust definition. I want you to embrace it. And become it! Don’t miss the fact that Dan states, confidence is an ability. You can develop this skill. When you look at confidence as a skill,.
Do you think success is random? Do you believe in fate? By definition fate can mean, a force predetermining events, an outcome, a destiny, or even a disastrous consequence. Is your success because of focus or fate? When you think about fate, do you see a picture of circumstances beyond your control? Do you harbor the thought that if you get lucky, things will go well for you? Or maybe you believe that, if you’re tempting fate, things may go all wrong, and you are powerless to do something about it. I thought about how foreign this concept is to.
What is a belief? “A belief is something we personally choose to form in our mind. It is our recognition that some idea or thing is true and valid. Beliefs are things we decide we want to think are true.” ~Jordan Phoenix My favorite part of that quote is: [Tweet ““Beliefs are things we decide we want to think are true.” “] Not everything we choose to believe is true. Beliefs can empower you or cage you in forever; they are that important. Recognizing limiting beliefs, and letting them go, is one of the most important things you can do.
You’ve been given the gift of choice! Each and every day you wake up to a world chocked full of opportunities. Our abundant world offers an amazing array of different choices that require serious decision making skills. Think about it. At every meal, odds are there are many foods you can eat. At work, in our neighborhoods, and as you navigate social media there are friends we can ‘Like.” You have a closet full of clothes you can wear. The internet, your local community college, and businesses offer you the chance to learn all sorts of things. The is issue.
Do you ever wish someone else would make a decision for you? Do you get tired of being the one in charge? Sometimes, you wear the weight of your decisions and feel like you’ve carried it for a long time. You get to the point of just reacting, instead of thinking things through. Do you realize that research says that we make 35,000 decisions each and every day? It’s no wonder that we get ourselves sideways sometimes. So how do we know when to say yes, and when to say no when asked to make a decision? Sometimes, it’s automatic..
What is worry? The dictionary describes it as “give way to anxiety or unease, ALLOW one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles.” [Tweet “We all worry, but have you ever asked yourself “what does worry do for me?” “] Believe me, worry can do so many things for you. It can make you ill. It can ruin your day. Worry can cripple you and stop you from moving forward. Worry can also make you over protect those you love. I don’t know about you, but none of the above are things I want for myself. Isn’t it strange how.
I know you’ve thought to yourself, ‘Why can’t I get over this?’ I know you’ve looked at a friend, a colleague, or a relative and thought, ‘Why can’t they get over this?’ Well… ‘Why can’t we?’ We can. First, we have to understand that we have “The Human Condition.” When we popped on the planet, we arrived as a baby girl or a baby boy. We were dependent. We needed security in the form of food, drink, and shelter. We needed some semblance of control. We needed the approval of those around us.[Tweet ” But as we mature, we must begin to understand.
Mindfulness, Reframing, Curiosity “Don’t you ever have a bad day? Sometimes, I’m having a bad one, and then I read your newspaper column. They’re always so cheery that I feel like I’m missing something.” These were words from one of my friends. They surprised me. As a coach, I’m just as human as the next guy. Of course, I have bad things that happen to me. I can have a poor attitude and share it with the world – and have! I have bad moments. I have bad minutes and hours. But I try to avoid having bad days through.
The warm weather we’ve been experiencing here, in North Carolina, has me thinking about summer. I’m ready to put away the jeans, the boots, the sweatshirts, and the sweaters. I’ve already started picturing lingering days on the lake followed by cool evenings on the patio. However, when I think about my shorts and bathing suits from last summer, the same questions always bubble up. Was my weight up or down last summer? Will those clothes still fit? Have I allowed myself to gain the weight back? Right after Christmas I wrote a blog about yo-yo dieting. If you’ve ever been.
[Tweet “You’ve been given a gift of choice.”] You are empowered to decide in the vast majority of the opportunities that life presents. The powerful question is: How will you respond? In this episode of The Vibrant Coach, Nicole Greer, PPCC invites you to be conscious… Alive… Awake and Aware of your choices. It’s time to wake up and SEE that we must have conscious use of our selves…aka…self-control. Using the Decision Awareness Matrix, you can practice Self-Assessment, the “S” in the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology. Self-Assessment is a way of approaching life that leads to increased awareness of one’s unique.
Do you make yourself a priority? Do you value yourself? Well, I learned a lesson about this the other day from an unexpected source. I was getting ready the other morning looking for a different pair of shoes to wear. I moved last year and my things were in storage for quite a while. I looked in the shoe cabinet and spotted some of my favorite couture driving moccasins in red patent leather. I pulled them out of the cubby and was horrified by what I saw. As I pulled them out, little bits of dry dog food spilled out.
Have you ever worked without actually working? You’re probably thinking what is she talking about, how do you work without working? Let me explain what I mean. A few weeks ago I met with a friend to tell her about my new position as a Vibrant Coach. As I sat there explaining what I do, I was lit up from within. The more I talked, the more I showed my enthusiasm and excitement. I am often very busy, but because I love what I do, it doesn’t feel like work to me. Can you say that about what you do.
Odds are you’ve used the phrase, “the learning curve” when you’ve referred to an unexpected detour in your plan, your life, or business. Everyone on planet earth has experienced this. Even with best laid plans.. You find yourself having to do more than expected. You find yourself having to work harder. You find yourself digging deep to understand the context, content, and character of the situation. These are tell-tale signs that you are experiencing a learning curve. Learning curves build strength, stamina, intellect, and discipline. With the proper mindset, “enthusiasm” you can learn even more. Answer these Powerful Questions: I.
Celebrated author, speaker and business guru, Harvey MacKay, asserts: “Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” He’s exactly right! Hello…time is ticking off right now. Your ability to get your head wrapped around this concept is essential to living your most VIBRANT life. The concept of harnessing time and riding it like a stallion is not a crazed work like mad ideal. It’s a leadership concept. You must take control of your days.
[Tweet ““It is never too late to be what you might have been.” -George Eliot”] Can you believe spring is already upon us? New seasons bring new beginnings. Beginnings are so full of promise…they offer us another chance to change, if we take it. I hope in this blog, you’ll find something you need to move yourself forward. Cheers to another month…and another chance to get it right – to reassess and reinvent our lives in a way that moves us forward. Reinvention is what separates winners from whiners: that ability, after defeat, to jump-start one’s essence and begin again. .
You can take a cue from the season, if you choose. And that’s just it, you must choose to TAKE the CUE. Cue’s are prompts for our thinking and this episode of The Vibrant Coach Podcast is your cue to shift your mindset. Spring is your yearly cue to choose growth. You can experience major growth if you simply think in new ways. Think about this… Whatever you think produces a feeling. This feeling or “e” “motion” produces a physical, spiritual and a chemical reaction inside you that puts you in action. You choose to act. Or, you choose not to.
27 Lessons from My Big Life and My Awkward Cello Living a Vibrant Life is like playing the cello! You can complain about the ‘lessons’ or you can stick it out. Living a Vibrant Life is about applying the technique, gaining skills, and learning from the invaluable experience of your weekly lessons. From the age of ten, I started playing in the school orchestra. My instrument was the cello, a rather large member of the violin family. It was an awkward thing to carry back and forth to school. I had major instrument envy because most of the other musicians.
In my last blog, I shared several insights that I picked up from Simply Brilliant (1800 Success Tips and Life Lessons from America’s Top Personal Coaches.) There are so many tips in this book that resonate with me. I’ve learned that health is the most important thing when you no longer have it. Several years ago my father was very ill. From time to time, we would go to the mall in my small hometown just to get him out of the house for a while. Inevitably, we would see people we knew. It wasn’t a secret that Dad wasn’t.
Team work may make the dream work. But, team work is impossible without vibrant individuals bringing themselves fully to the team. Your team’s members need really heathy framing about the Strategies, Systems, and Smarts that must be carried out in order to turn the dream into a reality. This framework is: L. O. V. E. When each team member embraces the mental models of: Learning Openness Vision and Enthusiasm …you’ll experience a whole new level of performance. Stop trying to do the team work before you’ve got the right mental models embraced by each individual contributor. Join Nicole Greer, PPCC to help your team.
Albert Einstein stated, “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.’” Albert was a genius. He knew that the key to solving our own problems and the world’s problems are not found in our limited opinions but rather in the unlimited power of our curiosity. And, the same is true in our lives. The key to solving our problems is not found.
It is the beginning of Lent, the weeks before Easter when Christians reflect upon our lives, repent, and maybe even fast. As we prepare to celebrate Easter, what I hear most often is, “Are you giving up anything for Lent?” Usually, I’ll hear something like, “I’m giving up chocolate, or I’m giving up wine.” Wow, that’s a sacrifice! I think it’s more often a convenient part of one’s diet program, more than any desire to be more spiritual. But if we take another look at the other parts of Lent, the time for self-reflection and repentance, maybe it would be.
When I registered to begin training as a life and leadership coach, I received a book entitled Simply Brilliant (1800 Success Tips and Life Lessons from America’s Top Personal and Business Coaches.) When I began to leaf through the pages, I was amazed at how many things seemed obvious and simple, yet so very meaningful. This blog will be different from other blogs I’ve written or read. I’m not even sure calling it a blog is accurate. What I’ve decided to do is share the lessons from the book that resonate with me. Please keep in mind the authors are.
Albert Einstein stated, “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.’” Albert was a genius. He knew that the key to solving our own problems and the world’s problems are not found in our limited opinions but rather in the unlimited power of our curiosity. And, the same is true in our lives as a “Vibrant” individuals. The key to solving our.
What is this thing called LOVE? As we all know love has many facets. I think Mary J. Blige sums it up best in her song “What Love Is”…….. Beautiful, horrible, magical, terrible. Reason to laugh and smile. Reason to cry yourself to sleep at night. Start a fight. Make up, break up, wrong or right. Heaven for all this work can equally be hell on earth. (And no one really knows anything about it) But everybody needs it. We can’t live without it. And that’s the way it goes.) Darkest day, brightest night. Just some other things you might.
William said, The world is my oyster. Shakespeare is right. It’s true. Options abound everywhere. Every day life asks us, “What will it be today?” This is a powerful question. And you stand in choice. As a vibrant individual, you can and must acknowledge that each and every day you are capable, resourceful and empowered to choose. You must pull out your sword and crack open the shell of your life. Discover your pearl. An oyster creates a pearl to protect itself from a foreign substance that has worked its way into the shell. The oyster starts to secrete a.
I was leaving my meeting with my banker uptown in one of the skyscrapers. As I gathered my coat, he asked me, “Have you been validated?” I looked at him and said in an ever louder voice, “Validated? I love being validated! No, I haven’t, but I love me some validation! I would be validated every day if I could!” I was laughing, the secretary was laughing, and we were all having a chuckle over “being validated”. My banker was merely asking if I had my parking ticket stamped, but he got more than he bargained for! We’ll see if.
Have you ever wanted something so badly that the thought of not getting it actually hurt? You had to have it now – the shoes, the jeans, the school, the car, the job, the house. I’m sure we’ve all heard the dramatic cries of teenagers trying to get what they want. It usually goes a little like this. But Mom, all of my friends have it. All of the other parents say it’s ok. I’ll just die if I have to wear those shoes to school again. I’ve heard most of those words in my life time, and I’ve probably.
“You Are The Dream” “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” -Lucille Ball Feeling good about who you are and what you’re here on earth to do – that is the real work of your life. And it’s ongoing. Each of us arrives with all we need to feel valued and unique, but slowly it is chipped away. We are born feeling whole. Just spend some time watching babies and you will know what I mean. When we begin to interact with the world, our.
Accountability is a simple concept but, a seriously challenging process. If you are responsible for holding people accountable, I’ve got a sure fire way to create accountability. Let’s take a close look at what accountability is. Accountability is exactly what the word suggests. It is the ability to account for your actions, behaviors, goals, and responsibilities. This means if you practice accountability in your own life, you have consciousness, drive and the follow through. This is challenging in your own life. Hello! It’s even more challenging when you have to make sure others are practicing accountability. The challenge with accountability is the way we.
I remember being a little bit angry. It was time to sell my house and I brought in a house stager to give me some advice. Room by room we went through my house and moved and removed many of my precious belongings. We put away accessories and many of the things I had collected that were on display. We took out so many things that I was feeling that the house was no longer mine. I was fighting back tears. The finality of moving was setting in. [Tweet “I felt like I was naked, that I had just been.
[Tweet ““Dear God, please let these pants fit!” “] Those were my exact words one morning while I was getting ready to attend a Vibrant Coaching event. The holiday season had just ended, and I was pretty sure nothing would fit but the sweats and leggings I had been wearing constantly. Suddenly that second cookie, second piece of rum cake, and third or fourth piece of candy seemed like a horrible idea. Why did I think it was such a good idea in the first place? I’ve put myself in that situation more times than I can count. I’ve probably.
The most interesting thing I’ve learned in this past year is a self-coaching methodology, called “The Model.” Developed by Brooke Castillo, The Model is a tool for observing your thinking. The Model fits beautifully into the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology™ I’ve developed. The “S” in S.H.I.N.E.™ stands for self-assessment. The Model is a self-assessment tool. I use it in my own life, with one-on-one coaching clients, and in the collaborative coaching environment to increase performance. Performance is at the heart of the coach’s purpose. The coach knows that how a coachee thinks is the source of energy that fuels or diminishes.
We all know a bully when we see him. But do you recognize the one that lives within? Our inner bully is the one that repeatedly invokes fear when we think about trying new things. He fills our mind with the constant chatter of negativity. He supplies every excuse imaginable when we seek to change. He tells us we’re not good enough or smart enough. Fear is a wicked thing. If we give it an opening, it can overtake and overwhelm us. It is only through character development that we can recognize fear for what it is, and learn to.
Be with those who help your being. ~Rumi Something about these words resonate with me. Maybe it’s because I’ve just returned from visiting my family. I always feel refreshed and happy after spending time with people who lift my spirits. Sometimes the opposite happens! Have you ever returned home from a visit with a friend or an acquaintance and just felt that something was off. Instead of remembering the occasion with warm thoughts, you find yourself bristling from comments that were made. You go over the scenario again and again thinking of all the things you should or shouldn’t.
Perhaps you’ve always been a dreamer, spent your life running around. Telling your self “It’s so hard to change.” You “can’t seem to settle down” and “the dreams you’ve seen lately keep turning out and burning out and turning out the same.” If you can relate to these lyrics from Take it to the Limit by the Eagles, you’re in the right place. On this Vibrant Coaching Blog Talk Radio Show, Nicole Greer, PPCC, a.k.a. the Vibrant Coach, is going to put you on a highway, and show you a sign, and help you take it to the limit one more time. You’ll receive serious Strategies,.
Warning… this posting does not contain any information that you do not already know. It is merely a pondering of the author, that’s me, Lisa Barnett, and her intent to keep from feeling awful after the holidays have passed. She has a tendency toward helping and her hope is that you may be inspired by this pondering as well. The holiday shopping season is here! Whoo hoo!! This really does not give me stress any more. I have been blessed with the opportunity to give… some of what I already have and some of what I choose to buy. The.
What do you want to create in your future? Have you ever thought about creating a vision board? A vision board is a collage of pictures, affirmations, positive quotes, and images that represent your ideal life. It is also a valuable tool and daily reminder of what you are striving for. By visualizing the things you want, you will actually work harder to bring them into your life. When creating a vision board, think about your feelings. For example, if you want to find a partner, is it because you want to love and to be loved in return? If you want.
Life is full of opportunities! Globalization, the Internet, and the abundance of information floods our world with possibilities. Individuals have more open doors than ever before. Instead of being held back by traditional roles, outdated rules, and unfair regulations, individuals can excel, achieve, and be who ever they desire to be. It’s a very special time in history. Everyone can choose to be the most vibrant form of themselves possible. While an individual has more opportunity than ever before, he or she still stands in choice about what to do with his or her life and how to do it..
How do you react to fear? Do you live at the mercy of every reaction you have? What’s your most common reaction? Some people deny it. We’ve all heard, “I’m not afraid.” Whether they are afraid or not, they’d never admit it. Others embrace it. [Tweet “Fear is useful to protect you, and keep you from harm.”] When the hair stands up on the back of your neck, it’s best to pay attention. There are others who procrastinate because of it. They are afraid so they wait, and wait, and wait, and the waiting forces the decision they are afraid.
I don’t like to cook!! I never have. As a child, I was never curious about what went on in the kitchen. I didn’t want to help and did so very reluctantly. I was raised in a family of great cooks, including my grandmother, my mother, my aunts, and my brother. Flash forward several years and along came my sister-in-law whose passion is, you guessed it, cooking. Wasn’t I the lucky one? Yes, I was – here were all these people around me who loved to cook. Yippee, I don’t have to do it – ever! I can sit myself.
A Five Week Journey Through the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology™ My core belief is that everyone on planet earth has a dream. That dream can become a desire. And that desire can become your destiny. This process is only possible if you apply energy to the dream. There are six energies in the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology™: Intellectual Energy Emotional Energy Spiritual Energy Physical Energy Social Energy Financial Energy [Tweet “Dreams begin as thoughts.”] At first, dreams are loose. Dreams float around, in, and through us. They can be an enigma. That is why you must write them down. [Tweet “Writing down your.
Fear has been around since cavemen left the safety of the cave and encountered wild animals. It is a natural feeling that often protects us when we encounter danger. The Free Dictionary defines fear as a very unpleasant or disturbing feeling caused by the presence or imminence of danger; a state or condition marked by this feeling; a feeling of disquiet or apprehension; a reason for dread or apprehension. But when fear overcomes us and prevents us from living into our big lives, it deserves a closer look. [Tweet “Are your fears keeping you from becoming the amazing person you.
When did the color leave your world? Did you notice it happening, or did you wake up one morning and see everything in black and white. By “black and white” I mean boring, mundane, more on your “have-to-do” list than on your “want-to-do” list. You get up in the morning, go to work, go home, do chores, help the children, go to bed and do it all again and again until each day turns into the next. Maybe you don’t go to a job outside of your house, but you spend so much time doing what has to be done.
A Five Week Voyage Through the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology™ In my post on Integrity, I shared that, “integrity work is about choosing the appropriate mental models, character traits and principles into your life that give your life… and ultimately your vision viability, credibility, and sustainability.” Choosing your mental models that define your integrity is key in taking Next Right Steps. When you decide how you will ‘see’ life then you will know how to ‘approach’ life. The powerful question is: “How do I want to see life?” I have a mental model suggestion for you. [Tweet “I suggest you ‘see’ life as.
Next week, we’ll have children dressed in every manner of scary costume coming to my door and yelling, “trick or treat”! Approaching Halloween, we have seen enough ghosts, zombies and spider webs in my neighborhood to fill my nightmare quota for the next year! We decorate to incite fear and sensationalize the macabre – the scarier, the better! It is the one time of the year when we celebrate fear. Any other time of the year, we run from things we’re afraid of like we have just seen a ghost! What are you afraid of? Have you ever asked yourself.
What will you do in the dash? I saw a great magician at work last night. But the real magic happened at the end of his show, when he referenced a poem called, The Dash, by Linda Ellis. The magician reminded us about the passage of time and how life happens in the dash between when we are born and when we pop off the planet. (Click here to read The Dash, by Linda Ellis.) How we live our life matters. We may be born with advantages, more or less. Where we start is not where we end up. In.
Hello Friends! No, this is not Nicole or Martha. I’m Lisa Barnett the Internet Marketing Coach here at Vibrant Coaching. We interrupt your normal blogging experience with an urgent message. NEVER GIVE UP! That’s right! Never give up! That’s it. No new big idea. It’s a simple message really that is very challenging to carry out. Can I tell you a short story? Thanks! About four weeks ago, I was on vacation with my husband. I was going to see the Grand Ole Opry and I was thrilled and anticipating this for awhile. We got there two days early and.
I plead guilty. I’m not very handy with household maintenance. What happens when ignorance catches up with you and you’re not intentional about taking care of things? I can tell you firsthand. I experienced the cascade effect. According to Wikipedia, a cascade effect is an inevitable and sometimes unforeseen chain of events due to an act affecting a system. Last week, I came home after attending a shower for my daughter. It was about 9:30 in the evening. As I approached my house, I heard a strange sound. Before I put my key in the door, I knew what it.
“Life in the fast lane Surely make you lose your mind…” …The Eagles, Hotel California Album Is your life moving so fast that you’re about to lose your mind? If you’re reeling from one day to the next, something has to change. Life is more than just the passage of time, where you push, and push and power through each day. Work life balance is a huge topic for today. Some people are so busy that they are having trouble processing their lives. If you are struggling with life at the speed of sound, the thought that you are supposed.
A Five Week Voyage Through the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology™ A vibrant life is lived on purpose, with a mission, in service to a vision. Instead of letting life unfold, you can stand in choice. Being conscious of the fact that your actions big or small add up to ‘your life’ is where integrity starts. This is a key mental model. Don’t miss this: the quantity and quality of my actions dictate the vibrancy of my life. Taking the appropriate actions in real time is where integrity manifests. In my post on Self-Assessment, I implored you to turn the mirror inward, to take stock,.
When was the last time you needed an attitude check? Were you waiting for an answer that took forever? You waited, and waited. This required the patience of Job. Why couldn’t you just get the answer you wanted? Why was it taking so long? You were getting really frustrated and starting to take that frustration out on everyone around you. You were given a new nickname of Mr. Cranky Pants. What was happening to your attitude? And just when you thought your head would explode from the racing thoughts within, you got your answer. The phone rang, or the email.
Are you living a big life? Some of you may be asking what I mean by that. I say that living a big life is about living out your passion and your purpose, and having a great time doing it. It’s about living life with the intention to get the most out of it. I’ve been trying to practice what I preach. This has been a big year for me with lots of changes. Some have said to me, “Wow, that’s a lot to handle”. I say, “I am grateful for the opportunity to grow, and I am loving it!.
Habit: The “H” in the SHINE Coaching Methodology™ I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Habits either serve you in a powerful way or they slay you. Habits are repeated behaviors that have worked their way into your comfort zone. Good or bad, these behaviors emanate from automatic thinking. Automatic thinking is deeply ingrained into your subconscious mind. When automatic thinking occurs your brain is engaged. However, this engagement is at a lower level. It is subconscious not conscious. The goal is to get very conscious about the habits in your life. You can move from being a victim.
In this 2nd episode in The Thinking Series, Nicole Greer, PPCC explores the concept of Critical Thinking. Critical thinking has its roots in Socrates work dating back 2,500 years. In my imagination, Socrates grew weary tolerating uniformed, lethargic, and obviously empty thinking. I can easily imagine this, because HELLO that is what I experience on a day to day basis. Can you relate? If you find yourself holding conversations or worse yet..discussions… with individuals or groups that need some fresh awareness of their thinking patterns, you need crititcal thinking in your tool box. Critical thinking has six stages: Gaining Knowledge.
You don’t have to look very far to find out everything you never wanted to know about people. Popular culture is a wonderful source for information, but when it becomes the window for voyeurism, it’s gone too far. We’ve become a nation of nosy people, eavesdropping on conversations, over-sharing, and keeping up with the likes of the Kardashians. It’s almost as if we treat social media like a spectator sport, tip- toeing through the not-so-private lives of celebrities and our friends, too. We spend our time watching other people’s lives, looking for the next scandal to surface. It just seems.
I have a deeply held belief that each and everyone of us has an inner light, an energy, a spark. The chief aim is to fan the spark into a flame and S.H.I.N.E. Your flame requires some tending. This tending is done through coaching. [Tweet “Coaching allows space for fresh oxygen and provides fuel so your spark can catch on fire.”] Inside a coaching space, whether facilitated by a professional coach or through self-coaching, new thoughts rise up, create passion, and move you into action. The first step in the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology™ is self-assessment. You must understand the raw material.
You have a brain in your head. Duh! That’s a no brainer. While this fact is obvious, often we forget we are thinking. We must think about how we’re thinking. This is called metacognition. Without metacognition, we fall prey to bad thinking habits. Bad thinking habits manifest in all sorts of ways: Taking short cuts. Making excuses Believing things that are unjustified. and everyone’s favorite…Fear. Join Nicole Greer, PPCC for a trip inside the grey matter to look around for thinking patterns that aren’t serving you. Learn coaching techniques that help you regroove your brain so you can be above.
I’ve had a challenge in my life lately that has baffled me. I must admit that I’ve been ashamed to talk about it, too. I almost came to the conclusion that my SMART TV was smarter than me. You see, I couldn’t make it work, and I’m fresh out of kids at my house to help me! In the past, that’s what I did. If I couldn’t get something in the world of electronics to work, I just asked my kids. They would help me, usually without too much eye rolling, and they would fix it. It was just a.
This week, I want to S.H.I.N.E. the spotlight on a dear client and friend, Kevin Boyle. Kevin Boyle is amazing! He’s an IT professional, husband, dad, Rotarian, and a natural leader. I have been coaching Kevin for two years. We met doing Leadership Development in a Rotary program called Seminar for Tomorrow’s Leaders. He is on a mission to become a coach, speaker, and entrepreneur. We have worked diligently using the S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology to make what is possible become probable in his life. I have challenged him to write as a strategy to live his most Vibrant Life. Below.
From my years of volunteering with non-profits and eventually becoming an executive director, I know that the month of August signals a new season. The summer is ending, but the fundraising season is just beginning. I’m referring to the months from September to December when the non-profits raise the majority of their funds. So don’t be surprised to start seeing the appeal letters coming in your mailbox! Are you already feeling generous? If so, beat the Christmas rush. [Tweet “Charitable giving is your opportunity to SHINE!”] Your favorite charities would appreciate receiving your check right now. Many, start their fiscal.
Energy is the intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical, social and monetary power to perform. You require energy to support your every thought, word, action and interaction in your life. When you don’t have enough energy to do what you want and need to do, you have an Energy Deficit. There are six kinds of energy—intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical, social and money. The way you self-manage these areas will impact your ability to live each day with vitality. To manage these areas we must make choices of power and purpose. To infuse your days with energy you must: include a centering time,.
Lost your job? Been downsized? Need a change? Feeling the need to reinvent yourself? Try these affirmations to get perspective. 20 Affirmations for Reinvention and Resilience I will persevere. I have come through tough times before. I can do it again. I am greater than my circumstances. I am the author of my story, and it’s not finished yet. This is merely another chapter. I will engage all available resources as needed: my physical strength, my mental toughness, my greater network of friends and family, and my faith. I will take care of my health, mentally and physically so I.
The timer went off the day you were born. If it’s true your days are numbered, then the countdown is in progress. Whether conscious or unconscious, the clock is ticking down in the background. How does that land? Is your soul screaming, “Carpe Diem”? Seize the day! Or Is your mind, offended, resistant, and indignant? Perhaps, it is screaming “I am fine. I am content. I don’t need to prove anything.” The later response is very dangerous albeit very common. The content mind is stuck. It is offended by a challenge. It is resistant to change. It is indignant, annoyed.
Are you an empty nester? Have all your chicks flown the coop? Are you wondering what to do with yourself now? The term empty nest refers to the stage of life where the children leave home and the parents feel some sadness and loss with the last child leaving home. Families go through this transition phase of seeing their children go off to school or start out on their own. Many Moms have a hard time letting go. Of course, there may be some tears the first time you take them to college and say your good byes. But, instead.
We have all have voices in our head. A dialogue goes on all day long between the “me” that wants to be vibrant (full of energy, enthusiasm, and genius) and the “me” that is apathetic (lifeless, lethargic, and dull). This dialogue of the “me’s” creates serious resistance in the pursuit of doing good. This resistance or the struggle between doing good and doing bad sucks the energy out of you. It’s imperative to shut down the struggle and simply engage The Six Energies™. This is how you do more good in the world. Just think about it. [Tweet “What would.
“You’ve got to dance if the band is playing.” What’s your philosophy for vibrant living? Have you thought about how your thoughts affect your experience? Let me share a story with you. Nicole Greer and I were at an association convention. The theme for the reception and dance that evening was everything treasure and pirate related. There were pirates there, or should I say, people dressed up in costumes as pirates. The band was playing; the pirates were dancing with the ladies. Many people were just standing around watching. Nicole Greer looks at me and with her usual enthusiasm says,.
I just graduated from university in May. This achievement is the culmination of a 20 year journey. My alma mater is Lenoir Rhyne University. LR’s tradition for commencement is to invite students to deliver speeches. When I saw the opportunity to write and share my thoughts, I jumped at the chance. I really hoped the commencement committee would choose me as one of the three graduates for this esteemed opportunity. As an “adult” student in a smaller program, I felt my perspective would bring diversity and a much needed emphasis that it’s never too late to gain wisdom! Unfortunately, I.
Last week I lost my Roomba, my robotic vacuum cleaner. When I say I lost it, I mean it was doing its job and got stuck somewhere. Most of the time it runs great. It is round in shape and just works itself around corners and obstacles. It operates like the ball on a pinball machine, bouncing off and heading in a new direction when it bumps into something. It’s great because, almost nothing stops it. It runs into something, and pivots to work around. And it almost always finds a way around. In the rare instance where it gets.
Imagine a rubber band, stretched between your vision and current reality. When stretched, the rubber band creates tension, representing the tension between vision on one hand and the current reality on the other. What does tension seek? Resolution or release. There are only two possible ways for the tension to resolve itself: pull reality toward the vision or pull the vision toward reality. Which occurs will depend on whether we hold steady to the vision. The principle of creative tension is the central principle of shifting your life toward a new vision. Yet, it is easily misunderstood. For example, the.
Join Nicole Greer, PPCC…a.k.a. “The Vibrant Coach” for a 15 minute illuminating coaching session where you’ll gain understanding about LEADERSHIP. Everyone is a leader. Primarily, you lead yourself. Secondarily, the quality of your “self-leadership” begins to influence your relationships. Thirdly, your relationships impact your community. Ultimately, this shapes our world. This is huge! [Tweet “You must understand and start to take responsibility for your leadership.”] [Tweet “The quality of your character, your Vibrant Virtues, equate to your leadership effectiveness.”] People want to be in relationships, be led by, and shown the way by people who are excellent. And excellence comes.
Words matter. I had seen this list many times before and had actually used this when my children were small. But this time it caught my eye. The title was different. It read, “Embracing Care”. Previously, I had seen this list before with the title of “House Rules”. Wow, what a difference a few words make. I guess I had to acknowledge my own prejudice about rules. Rules can be very good things. They bring order and continuity to what we do. They help us standardize behaviors and expectations. But they can also squelch creativity. I think that is the.
Integrity Work is about being whole. [Tweet “To be an individual of integrity, it’s imperative to have a focus that brings you back on track.”] Several authors have suggested that all you really need is ONE WORD to keep you in integrity. I wholeheartedly agree. When I went through my coach training in 2007, I had a life changing moment during the last session in the certification. The master coach facilitated an experiential to edify our self-esteem as we entered into our new lives as coaches. He asked each of us (who had spent months practice coaching each other, studying,.
Are you new and improved? Reinvention is the name of the game now. I don’t believe I had heard much of this word until the last 10 years. The days of staying with one job your whole life are almost gone. I looked up the word reinvention to make sure I really understood what it meant. According to the dictionary, it means: to invent something again, to create a new version of something. We have been inundated by reinvention at every turn. You can’t watch TV without seeing “a new and improved” product. (Please imagine with the correct booming sound.
Do you long for more? Deep down is something empty. Do you want to be fulfilled? Of course you do, this is the human condition. Remember back in psychology class, when you studied Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs? Let me refresh your memory. At the bottom of Maslow’s pyramid, he states that you must have your basic needs met. If you’re hungry, you need to be fed. At the next level, there are safety needs. If you’re in danger, you need protection. Up another level, there is love and belonging. You need people you can trust, a community, and a tribe..
With summer comes one of my all-time favorite things to do –BBQ. Burgers on the grill…yes, please! There’s nothing like grilling out and having all your favorites sizzling and creating an awesome aroma. I get hungry just thinking about it! What would you say if you ordered a burger and it arrived without the patty? “Where’s the beef?” I’m sure you would realize that the main part of your burger would be missing something. A burger without the meat is a lettuce and tomato sandwich. The meat patty, the burger is the star attraction in a hamburger. That’s where we.
There’s a day you pop on the planet. And there is day when you will pop off the planet. No human on planet earth can escape this reality. In middle of these two days is your life. You stand in choice about how you will experience the journey from point “A” to point “B”. While I understand that circumstances beyond your control can pop up on your lifeline, you do have control over how you will handle your circumstances. Having a vision for your life is a key strategy for guiding your circumstances. My experience as a.
Independence Day came early for me this year. I couldn’t wait until the 4th of July to celebrate the big day. This year I bought my first house as a single person, and it felt like Independence Day for me. It was literally a monumental moment for me. In the midst of unpacking the boxes, at my new house, I stopped, and took a moment to unwrap my new American flag. I carefully placed it in the holder outside of my front door and stepped back to admire the view. That beautiful red, white, and blue was perfect..
Join Nicole Greer, PPCC … a.k.a. “The Vibrant Coach” for a 15 minute illuminating coaching session where you’ll gain understanding about people and how they make decisions. Using the time tested and scientifically proven MBTI or Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Nicole will light up the third dichotomy of preference. People make decisions differently. Some people think things through while some feel their way through the possibilities. The thinking types prefer tasks, metrics, and clear expectations. The feeling types prefer relationships, harmony, and the value of an experience. Both approaches are valuable. [Tweet ” The key is to understand your own preference while appreciating the.
Join Nicole Greer, PPCC…a.k.a. “The Vibrant Coach” for a 15 minute illuminating coaching session where you’ll gain understanding about people and how they think. Using the time tested and scientifically proven MBTI or Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Nicole will light up the second dichotomy of preference. People take in information differently. Some people are intuitive while some are sensing. The intuitive types prefer vision, the big picture, and new concepts. The sensing types prefer what’s proven, visible now, and research. Both approaches are valuable. The key is to understand your own preference while appreciating the other. Chocked full of.
To be esteemed is to be regarded highly by others. [Tweet “Are You Esteemed?”] People living vibrant lives are definitely esteemed. Living a vibrant life is a life that loves God, family, his or her calling and …yes… he or she loves herself. A person living a vibrant life understands that if he or she doesn’t have high regard for his or her life, no one else will. An individual, who has personal esteem, radiates confidence, gives us hope and pours out love. Self-esteem is defined by Matthew McKay, PhD as “the ingredient that makes strong and.
Do you make plans for it? Do you relish it? Do you take it by the cheeks and love it? Do you honor it? Do you treasure it? Do you put your arms around it and embrace it? Do you dream about it? Do you feel it? Do you savor it? Do you drink it in and inhale its’ aroma? Do you grab it with gusto, or caress it with kindness? Do you enjoy it? Do you share it? Do you learn from it? Do you truly see it? Do you walk through it with awe and wonder? Do you.
change everything. Good habits create health, wealth and make your best self. Bad habits create pain, disdain, and brain drain! [Tweet “We totally stand in choice about our habits.”] While there is a ton of brain science about how habits are formed, pages of research, and bunches of blog posts on the topic, the reality is simple. We must simply decide what to say “Yes!” to and what to say “No!” to. I want to encourage you to a new kind of “to do” list. This “to do” list has two columns, a “to do” column and “not to.
Life can be like a shower door. Either you’re on track or you’re not. Do you glide or struggle? Is there trash in your track that must be removed? Is your door cloudy or clear? Does it need a cleanup with a strong solution like some CLR, or does it just need a little work on your part to wipe off the fog from soap to provide a clearer view? Have you ever lived in a house where there were “issues” with the sliding shower door? I have. In fact, we had a shower door that would almost fall.
When was the last time you had a tune-up? I’m not talking about one for your car, your bike, or even your AC system. I’m talking about one for you! [Tweet “Periodic maintenance is necessary to make sure things run efficiently and in their optimum manner.”] For this we make an appointment for a tune-up and have an expert give their full attention to our car, bike, or unit. We think nothing of signing up for a plan to have them come out twice a year and do a thorough check. [Tweet “What are the dangers.
Join Nicole Greer, PPCC to take on some Habit work that will literally save planet earth! In Nicole’s S.H.I.N.E. Coaching Methodology, the “H” represents Habit Work. Habit work is essential to letting your light illuminate the world. WIth good habits in place, we allow the flow of positive energy and create positive outcomes. Doing your part for the environment is imperative to your future and your ability to live a vibrant and productive life! If you can be part of the process of sustaining the quality of life on planet earth, obviously this will create your own sustainability. This.
Last week, I talked about the popular notion of Throwback Thursdays on social Media. I suggested that it was great to think about the past, but that it would also be a great time to think about the future. But, perhaps the future deserves its’ own day for consideration. Nicole Greer, the Vibrant Coach suggested that we have Future Fridays. I thought that was brilliant –both Nicole and the idea! [Tweet “How much time do you devote to planning your future, then following through to make it happen?”] Instead of just letting it happen, why not take the steps to.
1.) Endurance! I learned what this word means by doing. Endurance doesn’t just happen. You have to show up and work for it. Each day that I showed up to our Run for God class, we would have a Bible lesson, a teaching from an expert runner giving us tips on how to dress to how to run safely and efficiently, and then we would run. It was interval training. Our first day was walk 5 minutes, then jog for 60 seconds and walk for 90 seconds for a total of 20 minutes then another 5 minutes of walking to.
Life is vibrant when we consciously engage with four concepts: FOCUS, BALANCE, PRODUCTIVITY, and FULFILLMENT. The first three concepts are easily grasped. What I believe is the biggest challenge is seriously comprehending the need for celebrating and fulfillment. Feeling fulfilled is key to refueling our lives so that we have the necessary energy to focus once more and seek balance in pursuit of being productive. Join Nicole Greer, PPCC for insight into how you can create greater fulfillment through milestones, markers, and monuments that celebrate your accomplishments. Check Out Self Help Podcasts at Blog.
The Urban Dictionary defines Throwback Thursday as: When you put a picture from a “while” ago on your social media sites. Many of you are in the habit of posting a photo on Thursdays. Seeing these older pictures gives us all a moment of nostalgia – for the good ole’ days, or maybe for the not so good ole’ days. Everyone always gets a good laugh over the clothing and hairstyles from decades past. [Tweet “I thought it was interesting that people are looking back once a week to the way things were.”] What if we.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching When was the last time you really challenged yourself in a meaningful way? Perhaps this would involve you leaving your comfort zone and doing something very different. Did you have friends tell you that you were crazy? Sometimes that happens, but what if it is an opportunity for personal learning, growth, and transformation? Wouldn’t you want that for yourself? I have a friend that is training to climb Mount Kilimanjaro in Africa. She had friends that were going, and she finally decided to say, “Yes,” to the challenge..
Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Well, good! That’s what’s called rock bottom. At this point, there is no where to go but up! When you find yourself ill and overwhelmed, it’s time to get rested and rejuvenated. To start the process of healing, the mind must change first. A thoughtful approach to reinventing yourself can restore focus, help you make better choices and get you moving in a positive direction toward health and wholeness. This show will provide you Strategies, Systems, and Smarts that will illuminate your purpose, realign your priorities, and.
People without confidence suffer more than people with confidence because they’re in a state of worry, anxiety, and dare I say it self-loathing. They ponder, Am I enough? Am I worthy? Do I have what it takes? Look closely at these questions. Can they be answered? Of course, they can. What is required is self-assessment. When faced with an opportunity that calls into question your skills, talents and gifts leaving you less than confident, it’s time to turn the mirror inward taking stock of the following: Turning the mirror.
You’ve got a destination in mind. You have ideas about what would happen if, you got there. The problem is you can’t “Get it in Gear”! Join Nicole Greer, PPCC for a driving lesson that can change your life in 0-15 minutes. Learn to set up your personal GPS, fuel your engine, and press on the gas. You’ll fill your tank with 7 key coaching questions that you can use to rev up your thinking, shift your heart and move you forward to a more vibrant life. Let’s get started! Powerful Question: [Tweet “What are the shifts needed to.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching On Earth Day, I heard a statistic that stunned me, but didn’t surprise me. 25% of all the food purchased was wasted. That’s like leaving the grocery store with four bags of food, dropping one in the parking lot, and just leaving it behind – something we don’t INTEND to do. When I heard that, I thought about all the hungry people out there, and the needless economic waste as a result. [Tweet “What if we were more INTENTional with our food purchases?”] What if we used more.
Woulda, coulda, shoulda…stop lamenting and start innovating! Hindsight is good but it’s not ideal. It’s wonderful to learn a lesson. It’s just fine to be messy. And it’s absolutely necessary to take risks. But, to take the lesson, clean up the mess and assess the power in the risks is ideal. [Tweet “Our goal then is to take what we learn in hindsight and create foresight.”] This is what I call taking “Next RIGHT Steps.” Next Right Steps are about documenting three perspectives: An Introspective: A visit to the future to imagine what could be,.
There’s one constant in life…change. You can count on it. Being human we construct comfort zones that rebuff change and cause fear. This fear is extremely powerful and keeps you stuck. To have a vibrant life, you must F.A.C.E. fear head on! Join Nicole Greer, PPCC to learn the formula to transform fear into focused faith on the future. Check Out Self Help Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with The Vibrant Coach on BlogTalkRadio
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching I recently read an article on the Business Insider website about Scott Adams, the creator of the Dilbert Comic series. It went on to explain about how his morning ritual got him into the creativity mode. (See that article here.) He started his day the very same way each day, putting his body on “autopilot”, so his mind was free to be creative. He created a habit of rising early in the morning and doing things the same way each day. He gave himself the treat of eating.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Are you missing a special friend? Do you have a friend that you can connect with, even if months have passed? Who is that friend, who you’ve known for so long, and so well? [Tweet “Friendship is a gift.”] It is to be celebrated and anticipated. Like a beautiful present, friendship gets even better when it’s unwrapped and used for your benefit – a treasure indeed! [Tweet “Friendship is giving. “] It is giving them your full attention and listening when they need to talk..
Linked In is a powerful strategy for growing your network. It’s imperative that you set aside time to create “Strategies, Systems, & Smarts” that create an intentional and successful approach for engaging with this social media platform. Linked In is a professional career site that allows you to create a personal portfolio. Searchable by 1000’s and 1000’s of individuals across the globe, Linked In can be the conduit to a new career, clients, and collaborators. Join Nicole Greer, PPCC for a learning Linked In session that will energize, impact, and influence you to live a more vibrant life through.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Epic Fail! What do you do when things go wrong? Do you fold and hide? Do you beat yourself up? Or do you own up to your mistakes, learn from them and use them to build more character? [Tweet “We can let our shortcomings defeat us, or inspire us to be better.”] We can choose how to respond. Nicole Greer’s SHINE coaching methodology can help. Instead of being overwhelmed by our error, she outlines a coaching exercise to objectively look at our situation. In five.
Integrity is elusive although everyone wants to claim it. Join Nicole Greer, PPCC as she redefines and refines the mental model around integrity. Explore how to be whole, undivided, and focused. Gain strategies, one system, and serious smarts that can make your leadership irresistible to others through serious integrity work. INTEGRITY … Everyone thinks they have it. [Tweet “Integrity is very fleeting.”] [Tweet “Integrity means to be whole.”] It’s very important to be content with the progress you are making but the reality is that we never want to stop growing into that “whole self”. Getting.
Mentoring and coaching have distinct styles, different goals, but related ideals. Let’s talk about the difference between mentoring and coaching. Over the beautiful Easter holiday, I’m took my beautiful daughter, Katelyn Greer up to Nashville, Tennessee. We went to Vanderbilt University to take a tour. I mentored her through the process of going to university. She is a sophomore in high school. She is getting ready to figure out what she wants to do as far as her college career is concerned. I am a perfect mentor for her because I am somebody who just successfully navigated her own college.
Character development is a key strategy for leadership, team building, and organizational culture change. If you want your life and your organizations to shift in a really powerful way, you need strategies, systems and smarts to create serious character development. Character is an individual’s mental and moral qualities. Instead of falling into complacency stating, “This is just the way I am.” We can wake up to the fact that there are four meta-factors of character development that need our intention and attention. This morning on Blog Talk Radio we are talking about the four meta factors that characterize a Vibrant.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Are you serving on a board in your community? Yes, I spelled it the right way. I have served on many and each has its’ own personality. The board chair and the Executive Director make a big difference in how things run. But as a board member, you also have a fiduciary responsibility to see that the organization runs properly. Are you engaged and enjoying your board service? [Tweet ““The leader determines the rate of the pack.””] [Tweet “If you are bored in your board service, why is that?”] .
Have you ever noticed that some folks walk in the room and the lights go dim? Then, there are others who light up the room with presence. What’s the difference? It’s energy, pure and simple. Join Nicole Greer, PPCC as she explores Jon Gordon’s book, “The Energy Bus”. This delightful parable offers us 10 rules that can fuel our life, work, and relationships with positive energy. Take the wheel, invite people to join you and release some enthusiasm. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all! I’m not on the Energy bus, I’m on.
Recently, I met a gentleman at a networking event, and learned that he had more than thirty years of experience working in his field. He was successful in his present job, but knew that his company was moving operations to another state. It meant that he’d have to find other employment. He was a little apprehensive about the future, as any of us might be. A career transition was in his future. We started talking about reinventing yourself. The thought can be quite unsettling, especially if the news is sudden or unexpected. But, as we spoke, we discussed that reinvention.
Building a Solid Foundation for a Vibrant Life By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Just like the sun rises and sets each day, so do you. You rise to greet the day and fall into your habits that either serve your life our slay you. You can stand in choice about the quality of your life by stopping to honor life itself. Let’s examine the habits you have in your life then, consider how we might add more meaning, value, and a sure footing that would support you throughout the day. Ask yourself.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching I noticed that the cherry trees were blooming outside of my office. That was a sure-fire sign that Spring was really on its’ way. After a tough winter here, it was a welcome sight to see the beautiful color. The daylight is longer and the weather is getting warmer. It always makes me want to be more productive with the additional sunlight. What is a good use of my extra time? For me, Spring signals the time for Spring-cleaning. I look around the house and make a list.
Go From Intention Setting to Integrity By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Life is full of rules. Right? The difference between feeling empowered in life and feeling like you’re under someone else’s thumb is taking the initiative to decide what the your own rules are for a vibrant life. Today, you can create the life you say you really want by penning your own rule book. The ancient practice of creating a rule of life gives your life structure, power, and serious integrity. The goal is to move from simply setting good intentions to setting.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Is your fun meter reading low? [Tweet “When was the last time that you had some fun?”] If I asked you to rate yourself on the amount of fun you have had lately, what would your fun meter read? Like a root canal? Clearly lacking? OK? Alright, Alright, Alright! Woo-Hoo, a laugh riot? I was talking with someone the other day. The comment was made that he had worked all of his life, including weekends and holidays since he was a child. He wasn’t sure that he knew.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching I was preparing for a conference in Greenville, NC, home of the ECU Pirates. The conference planners had chosen to go with a pirate theme to create a little fun. I was tasked with designing a booth with this pirate decor. My mind had visions of treasure and sunken ships. I started thinking about everything pirate and the way they talked. Yo, ho, ho, and a bottle of rum. Aye, ye scurvy dog! Arrrr! Arrrr! Arrrr…Matey! I was really getting into it! Maybe, I needed to think like a pirate. But, back.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching You’ve heard this before. [Tweet “”It’s not what you know but who you know.””] And here’s what I know, that is only partially true. The reality is that you must create a social network around yourself that creates the opportunity to let people see, hear, and experience what you know. To gain an audience for your genius, you’re going to have to work on your network. If the thought of networking creates anxiety, let me assure you. You already have a network. You simply need to to.
Coaching for your presence By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Have you ever been driving along, belting out your favorite song, when something interrupts you mid-jam session? I was winding through some country roads, enjoying my tunes, when all of a sudden, I caught a whiff of a skunk. I couldn’t see it, but I knew it had to be close by. Did you know that the odor of a skunk can spread and be detected up to five miles away? Lucky me! The smell just got stronger and stronger, until I finally saw it. The.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching [Tweet “There are three ways You choose to hold your energy.”] You must learn to choose wisely! Like a gas flame has a regulator that allows us to raise or lower the flow of fuel, you also have the ability to regulate your energy flow. Finally, you may begin to understand why you are overwhelmed all the time. Or perhaps the opposite, you’ll understand why you are stuck all the time. Ultimately, the aim is to help you see that the goal is just to move forward and.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Monday was Presidents’ Day. Along with all the mattress ads, I saw plenty of news stories on Washington and Lincoln, with a splash of Roosevelt, Bush and Obama thrown in too. I looked at the photos of the Presidents when they first came into office, and then when they left. They wore the weight of the office in every gray hair on their heads. It’s a huge responsibility to be the President of the United States. It’s even bigger when you consider that our President is also referred to as the.
is the key to living an illuminated life that shines. There are three ways we engage our energy. We can spend an inordinate amount of time avoiding what we need to do! This energy is called, retreat. Or we can spend an inordinate amount of energy creating drama, over-emotionalizing, stating we are overwhelmed and freaking out about the things we need to do. OR…we can simply just move TOWARD the things that need to be done. Ask yourself these questions: [Tweet “Am I hiding from what needs to be done?”] [Tweet “Am I creating an ordeal when I could.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching This may seem like an odd question in February. Valentines, hearts and plenty of images of amoré surround us during this time of year. They are a constant reminder that our relationships matter. As important as this is, your relationships will suffer if you don’t love yourself. So how can you love yourself more? [Tweet “Take time to do the things that refresh & renew your spirit.”] We all have the same 24 hours in the day. It’s how we prioritize them that counts. Make yourself a.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Daddy said, “Wake up and smell the coffee.” He said it my whole life. It was one of his mantras. This wasn’t a pleasant invitation to enjoy the fresh brewed goodness of Folgers coffee, which is so romantically portrayed on in TV commercials. , a call to consciousness, and a challenge to see what is REALLY going on in my life. His tone was usually abrupt. His intonation was stern. His cadence was quick. He wasn’t being mean, although my child’s mind jumped to that conclusion..
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching With all of the Super Bowl publicity, I was nostalgically thinking about my years as a football Mom. They call football the game of life, so what did I learn about life from watching him play? My son played football in middle school and in high school, so I saw it up close and personal. From the muddy clothes and cleats, to the bruises and cuts, I saw him putting his all into the game. He had a very important position as the center. For those of you out there.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching “This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth… Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.”―Marilyn Monroe If “life is what you make of it”.
Take responsibility for filling your cup By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching I love my cup of coffee in the morning. I usually stick to same routine coffee at home. But, I am always amazed at the myriad of ways that one can order a cup of coffee at a specialty shop. You can add a shot of espresso, to wake you with a jolt or have a latte for a creamy taste. You can get a Grande, for that long commute to work. Feeling like a little chocolate, and you can order Mocha..
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Last Friday was the first SHINE Retreat of the year. I am inspired by the desire in people to live their most vibrant lives. These individuals declared, just by showing up in the room, that they wanted to take their energy, talents, and gifts and release them into the world as a powerful force for good. Yes, they want their light to shine! The attendees were an eclectic group including: a financial planner, a spiritual director, a coach to IT teams, a CFO, a web design guru, ministry leader.
Self Assessment and Reflection By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Perhaps you’ve been doing some self-reflection lately, thinking about the kind of life you want to lead. You’re thinking about additional things you want to do, and how you want to do them. But did you ever think that maybe there were some things you need to unload, to make room for a better life? Each time I pack my suitcase, I’m intentional about what I take. I make purposeful decisions about what to carry. But sometimes I overload my bag, thinking I need to bring.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching I have been on a diet since third grade. I have always understood that food has an affect on your body. Hello! I have seen the number on the scale move from 110 to 138 like a roller coaster time and time again. Eat too much and up the hill I go. Then, I’m on a diet and “Wheeeee!” I am on my way down the hill once more repeating the vicious cycle. This is my history or my “her story”. Therefore, I believed this was how “I.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Recently, I created my first vision board. What is that, you may ask? A vision board is a tool to help visualize the way you want your future to be. You do this by making a collage of images symbolic of what you want. But it’s so much more than that. [Tweet “When you can clearly see your future, you are more likely to take steps to make it happen. “] I resisted doing this for a while. It just seemed a little too elementary and.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Last week declared our New Year’s Resolutions. Now, let’s take some next right steps in accountability. First: I want to encourage you to seek out an individual who is strong enough to hold you up, willing to confront you, and so courageous that he or she will call you out when you lack commitment. Accountability of course comes from the word: account. To ‘account for’ means: to give reason for a particular action or event. It also means to satisfy an arrangement or to make a payment, which is.
Doing what you say you are going to do. This is the essence of accountability. The concept seems easy enough. Articulate what you are going to do and follow through. No problem. Right? Wrong. It’s been my personal experience that accountability as a character trait is fleeting. I know it’s a struggle because I have trouble myself. …with myself. [Tweet “Why is it that I can’t do the very things I say I want to do? “] A good look in the mirror both literally and figuratively tells me that it’s because I need help in the accountability process. I.
Time for self- assessment and good habits By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Here we are again at a brand new year. It’s time for the usual New Year’s resolutions. Are you making any? And furthermore, do you intend to keep these resolutions? In the past, I have been known to make a list of things I would like to improve or change, starting with my health. I start out strong, with good intentions, but something happens during the month of February, that makes those resolutions seem like impossible thoughts. Maybe it’s the onslaught of.
Time for self- assessment and good habits By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Each year in my family, my in-laws declared that they must have a Christmas list from each family member no later than Thanksgiving. I know that their request was an effort to get the children exactly what they wanted. Also, it was hard for them to keep current with the latest and greatest toys since they didn’t have little ones anymore. It was always a chore for me to come up with something to put on my list. I didn’t mind making.
Influence matters. You matter. By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching Each Christmas, I enjoy seeing one of my favorite movies. Frank Capra’s, It’s a Wonderful Life, was filmed in 1946 starring Jimmy Stewart. Though it was filmed almost seventy years ago, its’ message of influence still rings true today. I never tire of seeing it. The movie starts with George Bailey sharing his dream of traveling the world, and leaving behind his hometown of Bedford Falls for a bigger life. But circumstances change with the death of his father, and he stays in Bedford Falls,.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching At this time of year, the children I observe everywhere sing a chorus of “I can’t wait!” Their anticipation of the upcoming Christmas festivities is palpable. You can see energy dancing in their eyes. There’s hope pent up in their frenetic little bodies. And there is a longing in their hearts for a magnificent delivery that answers their wishes. As an adult, I delight in their joy. I celebrate their faith. I understand exactly what they are longing for. Do you? I know you do. .
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching [Tweet ““Trust your dreams, trust your heart, and trust your story.” –Neil Gaiman”] Will you trust me? Will you do the work of discernment? Let’s get started. Step One: Spark your intuition with a powerful question. Step Two: Acknowledge your emotions. Step Three: Reason with the following prompts. Try On the Options Using your imagination, the font of your creativity, see yourself in the future. Write them down. Look Back.
Communicating, Listening & Understanding By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching When I was a young Mother, I had little time to myself. It seemed that every step I took, I had a child hanging on my pants leg. Of course, kids just want to be with you! My oldest child was around 2 years old at the time, and I was her constant companion. I had to go to the bathroom. I shut the door, but it did not latch. With only the two of us in the house, I thought nothing of it. .
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world. –Eckhart Tolle Have you lost yourself? It’s easy to do. If your responsibilities create an unmanageable to-do list, your roles lack joy, and you long to run and hide, you’re probably lost. Being lost is a symptom of the lack of discernment in your life. Discernment is one of the core strategies in any individual’s tool kit for living a vibrant.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching “Every now and then one paints a picture that seems to have opened a door and serves as a stepping stone to other things.” ― Pablo Picasso In 2009, my mentor, Ann Starrette, gave me this core strategy for finding purpose and building confidence. This exercise put me on the path to coaching, speaking, and the pursuit of being an entrepreneur. The Stepping-Stones Exercise creates the opportunity to explore and uncover strong feelings that support your purpose. Where might it take you? Try.
Strategies, Systems, & Smarts By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching As a coach, I use my strategies, systems and smarts way beyond my professional life. I use them in my personal life, too. Just like you, I am preparing for Thanksgiving and anticipating making a wonderful meal. However, this meal has it’s challenges and I’m grateful for help that I receive to get this meal together. Thanksgiving doesn’t sound like a big deal, but in my family, the meal is not simply turkey and a couple of sides. No! That would never do! My meal has.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching “Life is not easy for any of us. “But what of that?” We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.”Marie Curie Break the word confidence into two parts. The prefix ‘con’ means ‘with’ and the core of the word ‘fidence’ denotes fidelity. In essence, confidence means ‘with loyalty’. To live a vibrant life as a vibrant individual you’ll need to be loyal to yourself. Loyalty is a feeling of.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching What are some strategies, systems, and smarts for developing the great habit of gratitude? Here are three suggestions that are sure to leave you with a more grateful spirit: [bullets type=”circle”] Practice the Daily Examen: Sit in a quiet space at the end of your day specifically set aside for contemplation. Consider what in your day brought joy, delight, and increased your energy. Simply write down key words or a phrase for what you are grateful for in a journal. Purchase a copy of Simple Abundance.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Saying, “Grace” growing up was simply rote. I knew it was expected and required. Obediently, I did as I was told. The words just rolled off my tongue. I didn’t understand their meaning so they lost their energy, their impact, and their influence. A fresh look at the words surprises me. Just look at these words. God is great. God is good. Let us thank Him for this food. Amen Do you see what I see? I see powerful words that.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching I survived growing up without a mother. I have lived as the housed homeless. And I never got my education. Is that you? Do you understand me? Or do you have another set of challenges that have damned up your life and could have potentially blocked your growth but you overcame the obstacles? Or perhaps you are blocked right now sitting there reading this. Edna Saint Vincent Millay, a poet and playwright quipped, “Life is not one damn thing after another. It’s the same thing over.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching [Tweet “”Be yourself. The world worships an original.” Ingrid Bergman”] Life happened. Things began to unfold. As a child, you and I didn’t have a lot of choice of how things would work out. You get the parents the creator chooses, good or bad. You are born into wealth or poverty. You have no siblings or you get lost in the pack. So, what does a Vibrant individual do with her history? Be sad? Be mad? Be un-glad? No. One must savor the lessons. Be.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching “When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world. –Eckhart Tolls Have you lost yourself? It’s easy to do. Being lost is a symptom of the lack of discernment in your life. Discernment is one of the core strategies in any vibrant individual’s tool kit for living a vibrant life. The discernment process gives you permission to act. It allows you to grasp, comprehend, and evaluate clearly. It illuminates your way. Take a close.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching A celebration of the year’s harvest I know you’ve been working hard. Everyone I work with and the groups I speak to are all operating at a heightened level of intensity. The “fields” out there have been harder to plow, more difficult to fertilize and require constant tending to reap a return on investment. However, I am encouraged because the people I work with are in pursuit. They have fruit on the vine as clear evidence of their efforts. While I understand we must press on.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching A kaleidoscope of color is unveiled each and every year as October generously arrives with the gifts of autumn. Nature and the ultimate gift giver make a concerted effort to finish strong each year. If you choose, you too can finish strong but you’ll have to be in pursuit of the life you really want. Pursuit comes out of a deep-seated desire to take measured actions to obtain the desires of your heart. I invite you to take the signs of the autumn season as a cue to be.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Discerning individuals are Wise. Gramma Myrt shared her hard won lessons. Every task we worked on together was full of tips, shortcuts, and best practices. She would always say, “Let me show you how to do it. Watch me.” Here’s how you can embody wisdom: Embrace your unique viewpoint…give a new perspective. Make clarity your aim…have temperance. Be disciplined to stay with a task until you master it…be diligent. Thoughtful individuals embrace Humanity. Gramma Myrt loved deeply. With six children of her own and twenty-one grand “babes”,.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Myrtle Clara Catherine Charlotte Wittkop Hehl raised me. Gramma Myrt was named after every single one of her grandmothers for a reason. As a child, I marveled at the length of her name. It delighted me to say it, tell my friends about her unique moniker and to hear Gramma’s stories time and time again of the women who led her in many different ways to become the woman she was. Why would my great grandmother, Sadie Wittkop, give her only little girl of six children this name?.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching I’m from a tall family. In heels, I’m 6’1”. Some would call that tall for a woman. I call it perfect, for me! I have always been tall. All through school, I was with a group of fellow tall kids who were always assigned to sit in the back of the room, so we didn’t block the board. Yes, I was always on the back row. When school pictures were made, “Tall people to the back,” was what I was always told. Even to this day, look for me on.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Behavioral scientists have identified seven distinct ambitions that drive us to perform. Take a look at these ambitions. Which one resonates with you? Which one motivates you to say “yes”? Economic Ambition: a drive to create value and focused on results Altruistic Ambition: a drive to serve people and highly compassionate Theoretical Ambition: drive to understand and learn Authoritative Ambition: drive to be true to convictions and tenacious Creative Ambition: drive to use imagination and think outside the box Individualistic Ambition: drive to be unique and.
Let’s Give Credit Where Credit is Due!! Join me on this Google+ Post and mention your mentor and their website or business. You can click the comments cloud and you will see where you can post your comments. Also, if you are not already, please follow me on Google+. I’m Grateful!! “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” -Brian Tracy [Tweet “A mentor empowers a person to see a possible.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching The question is not… To be or not to be? The question is… To do or not to do? We stand in choice. Each and every day life provides a plethora of opportunities for us to engage. How do you decide what to say, “yes” to and what to say “no” to? Asking yourself this powerful question puts you in the driver’s seat of your own life. It creates that longed for state of balance. Saying yes or no appears to be a simple process.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Here’s a great story of “Getting in the Seat of Leadership” success. I love it when a plan comes together! [Tweet “Direction is the first leg in the stool. You must choose a path or life will choose one for you.”] Consider Amy for a moment. Her life started strong. She had a loving family growing up in the suburbs of the mid-west. She attended West Point. She was a diving champion. She married. She had three beautiful children. Out of nowhere comes divorce. Thrown.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching “What will you be in the future?” “What do you want for your future?” “What are your dreams and desires that you will consider on your birthday?” I love powerful questions and I love birthdays. My birthday is this month. I am going to embrace my 48 years of living wholeheartedly! And I anticipate that if I maintain a proper mental model, the next 48 leave me an entire lifetime I can create with intention. I have a plan. I invite you to take steps.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Do you remember the day you were born? I ask this question to my clients and audiences all the time. The answer is always a resounding “No”. Of course you can’t remember the day you were born but I can tell you what it was like. The day you were born was monumental. You delighted and astonished everyone with your arrival. Even if you come from a dysfunctional start, I know in my heart of hearts someone was delighted and astonished. Your mother may have held you.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching Let’s set some standards. They will give us the structure and sure footing to carry us through the days ahead. We can make up our minds and consider our standards non-negotiable. These are ways we will be in the world that communicate to the world and most importantly to ourselves who we are. Three Reasons to Set Some Standards Standards build confidence. Master Coach Dan Sullivan teaches that . When we feel good in our own skin, we can stop to notice what we’ve done to structure.
Making good health, a habit By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching I have always been guilty of this, especially when it comes to losing weight. My weight has been a life-long struggle for me. I have gained and lost several persons in weight over the years. I know what to do, but have difficulty being consistent in my diet and exercise. Many folks want to get healthy and begin a diet of eating healthy foods and exercising. You know them. They’re the ones saying, “ I only lost 2 lbs. this week, or I.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching As I came down the stairs in my new dress, high heels, coiffed hair and donning my new freshwater pearls, my daughter asked incredulously, “Where are you going?” At first, I was delighted that she admired my look. However, there was something about her surprise and demonstrative praise that made me think that perhaps my efforts to be at my best were rare. Granted, I was headed out to a special event but isn’t each day a choice to make special? In reality, it didn’t really require.
According to an article in the Huffington Post, 83% of Americans are stressed out at work. This means the demand on their energy exceeds their capacity. [Tweet “The majority of individuals are running on low energy levels. “] To safeguard their energy, they must recognize these energy leaks and answer these powerful questions: Leak #1: Pay attention to the people you allow in your life. Do they lean or lift? Leak #2: Negative self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Repeating the phrases: “I am tired”, “I am worn out”, “I am exhausted” steal mental energy and in turn weakens the physical.
By Martha S. Allen, Coach at Vibrant Coaching How often do you devote time to think? I’m not talking about getting naked, sitting on a rock to contemplate life, as depicted in the great masterpiece, The Thinker, by Rodin. But, I am talking about taking time to consider what you really, really want out of this life. Every day, you put one foot in front of the other, putting your life into virtual autopilot. Your life is busy, but are you living the life you are supposed to? Often people are so busy living a life, without making.
By Nicole Greer, PPCC Founder and Principle Coach at Vibrant Coaching [Tweet “Everything begins with the work of yourself. -Tony Schwartz”] Sophisticated individuals require energy to support their every thought, word, action and interaction in your life. When you don’t have enough energy to do what you want and need to do, you have an Energy Deficit. The way you self-manage these areas will impact your ability to live each day with vitality. To manage these areas you must make choices of power and purpose. And remember, balance is all about choices or next right steps. .
by Nicole Greer, PPCC The Four Elements of Success is the tool you need. This tool takes the characteristics of the elements and creates rich metaphors for how we show up in the world. The four elements are part of our physical makeup. We have earth in the form of calcium in our bones, potassium and magnesium in our organs. Just think every morning you wake and take your vitamin and minerals to ensure your health. Our physical form also consists of water. We are 70% water. Each of us has a breath,.
Opportunity Cost Opportunity Lost Opportunity -> Gained Success Attained “Seize the Day – Carpe Diem” I’m struck by how often I see people who don’t seize the day and take advantage of opportunities. Often, these opportunities are all around them, but they cannot “see” what is in front of them. Frustration sets in, and they quit their pursuit before they give themselves sufficient time to try. People often concentrate on the obstacle, not thinking of a creative way to get around, under, or over the obstacle. Sometimes, in the thinking, a little bit of magic happens and an ingenious.
[Tweet “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. -G. B. Shaw”] People are different. Throughout the course of our day, we encounter individuals that we must communicate with to achieve our goals. Whether we need our children to get out of bed, our spouse to help us with an errand, or we need to negotiate a business contract, communication is the one and only tool that creates success or if done ineffectively will ensure our failure, frustration, and frenzy! To be a master communicator, we must get an objective view.
Do you have a book, a song, a theory, or a lesson that must be shared? Take responsibility. Start with these tools to get your creativity flowing in service to your values, your passion and the art on the inside of you just waiting to be released. Three Tools to release, re-engage and re-learn how to be creative: You need the book(s) The Artist Way or the Artist Way at Work by Julia Cameron. Julia gave these books to the world as she served the world with the highest form of herself. She shares within the pages that.
I was working with a client of mine this week and we discussed the subject of why we hold onto things and habits that don’t serve us any longer. For example, someone calls and asks us to do something. We say “yes” out of obligation and duty, but we really didn’t want to do it. Often, I’ve found myself saying, “Why did I say yes?” shaking my head in a kind of personal disgust with myself. Why can’t I say that little word “no?” Am I – afraid that I will be judged as not being helpful? –.
Truth or Myth? I am not creative. You are too! Too talented… Too gifted… Too savvy… Too blessed…not to share. One of the rules growing up in my house was: “Share!” Simple and straightforward, I was given great wisdom. What do you have to share? One of my core beliefs but perhaps one of the myths you believe is that you are not creative. In the course of my week, I find myself with clients, in committee meetings, and out and about in the community with people who insist they cannot contribute. When.
It’s time to take stock! You have only this one life to live. Wake up to your current status and become alert to the next right steps you need to get on your ordained path. Taking stock of your past and present can powerfully impact the future. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own experience. The power we need to live life vibrantly comes from a serious and sober look at where you’ve been and how you are applying your time, energy, and resources. Discover yourself in terms of where you are right now. But, how do I do this?.
Stop what you are doing. It’s time for a Vibrancy Check. So, how are you? I suspect your reply is generated from an auto-pilot setting from deep within your sub-conscious. Can you be a little more precise? What are you really feeling and from what part of your life is this feeling generated? Don’t know? Let me help. Email me and I’ll send you a feelings list…really! Knowing exactly your state of being can trigger a fresh perspective that will help you see a next right step. And a next right step is the most precious.
Ethics are a set of beliefs about ‘what is right’ and ‘what is wrong’. A vibrant person knows that he knows that he knows what is right and what is wrong. He or she is sure, confident, and steadfast in his or her ability to discern. How does an individual do this? An individual uses the rule that is practiced around the world in various cultures, religions, and far-reaching societies. She practices the “Golden Rule”. Do unto others, as you would have others do unto you. This rule is not some old-fashioned, stodgy, tired notion. It’s.
Let’s get started! Just get on with it! Giddy up! Getter done! Instigate, inaugurate, initiate, originate, pollinate! Commence! Vibrant people realize the world needs what motivational innovation guru Tom Peters calls in his book, Circle of Innovation, “get on with it people”. Truly vibrant people don’t complain, groan and moan about the status quo. They lean into the issues that need attention and take responsibility to get things moving. The world is in a habitual rut, I like to call the “Rearview Mirror Mode” where individuals are always looking back and wishing things were different. I suggest that we.
I am asked all the time, “Why am I stuck?” I’ve been discerning your issues and obstacles… issues and obstacles that hold you back. I told you how I had addressed one of mine, by going back to school. Now, what about you, I ask. Large or small, you must address the possibilities in your life and take action to turn them into probabilities. The simple act of starting something often generates the energy necessary to instill the confidence to take another right step. Success breeds success. I have had the privilege of watching.
The way we conceive the future sculpts the present, gives contour and tone to nearly every action and thought throughout the day. If our sense of future is weak, we live listlessly. Much emotional and mental illness takes up residence with a man or a woman who feels that he or she “has no future.” Men and women of integrity have great faith that has always been characterized by a strong and focused sense of the future. They know that they can change each moment of the present based on a hope for the future. They know what they.
Last week I left you with a question concerning ethics: What is your reality of ethics in this world? Are your ethics more than words? Do your ethics influence your actions? Here is the reality. There are universal ethics in the world. People can try to separate themselves from them but the reality is they can’t escape the consequences. Certain beliefs are for everyone and for always. We all need people. We need relationships where common ground is gained through shared values. A suggestion… Contemplate your beliefs. Answer this Powerful Question: What are the.
Being self-determined isn’t what you think it is. It’s not being full of your self. It’s not having a selfish desire to fulfill your own needs. It’s not a fanatical focus that alienates all other possibilities. In fact, it’s the opposite of these. Having self-determination is a vibrant virtue, meaning if you possess it, you are a person of excellence. At the heart of the word determination is the root word determine. If a person knows his core values, his beliefs, understands his personality’s strengths, and can formulate a plan to put them to work in.
It’s the pennies in a jar that can add up to a significant amount of money. It’s vegetables and fruits on plates that add up to significant health. It’s the smile, the kiss and the sweet, emotion filled words whispered in someone’s ear that add up to a significant amount of love and trust in a relationship. Creating significant movement in your life is not about creating an outrageous unmanageable over haul in your life. It’s about adopting a few new practices that can add up to a significant amount of progress. B.J. Fogg, a social scientist.
For any connecting or relationship to survive, there has to be time and understanding. Stephen Covey’s classic habit number four from the book “Seven Habits for Highly Effective People” states, “Seek to understand, then be understood.” Seek first to understand, then to be understood. ~Dr. Steven Covey Beware the first impression! Don’t judge a book by the cover! Stop… get a hold of yourself and look. Take some time to turn to wonder. Why in the world do we take one look at someone and think we’ve got them figured out? Apparently.
A VIBRANT life starts with the Process of Thought. We must think about how we are thinking. Metacognition must be at the top of our HABIT list. We can use many tools for metacognition and I will share them here over the next four weeks. The first tool or HABIT that I want you to consider is to put time on your calendar to reflect on how you think. That’s it. Ok, pull up your calendar right now. THAT is a very powerful question. But it only takes on power IF you answer it. Put this thinking time.
A vibrant life requires both a fixed notion of morality and fluidity to its application. I believe that there are basic tenets to which all humanity must ascribe. We do need as Thomas Ferris states in his classic essay Is Morality Fixed or Fluid?, “buoys through the narrows of our lives” that act as guidelines and rules in our lives that restrict us and provide recommendations for living life. During my childhood, my grandmother lived with us off and on. She was a German grandma with lots of restrictions that became recommendations for my life. She had lots.
I’ve been blogging about Habit work for a couple of weeks. This is preparing me for the big the SHINE RETREAT: The HABIT Retreat on March 21, 2014. Doing this work personally has me uber sensitive to my own habits. This just reinforces the fact that HELLO…habit work is about consciousness. The more you focus on the change that must be made, create structure, get accountable, and reap the results the more empowered you are to do great things. Really! Perhaps you need more convincing that habit work is necessary? Important? Life changing? I was given a poem about.
Habit work is what Stephen Covey called, beginning with the end in mind. So, this begs the questions: What do you want? I know…I ask this all the time. Have you answered this yet? What are your goals? Are these written down? Actionable? What would delight you? Are your goals LIFE giving? Do they motivate you? What does your most vibrant life look like? Have you imagined your future self? I imagine you’d like your relationships to be solid, your life’s work to be fulfilling, and your body to be healthy. Am I right? To.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act but a habit. -Aristotle Excellence is a habit the world needs. What would our world be like if everyone strived to live at their best? I imagine a world where individuals are energized to action around their ordained gifts. I imagine a world where the healthcare system is not overwhelmed. Unfortunately, we do not live in this world. But, I can dream! Unfortunately, dreaming won’t be enough. Changing the world begins with you and me. It won’t be a dream that takes us to.
Once you’ve done the big work of visioning what you really want in the future, you have to travel back to the present and take stock. The goal is to clarify what is really going on. This is an invitation to be curious about your own life. In this very moment, we want to move from “I wish I was” to “I am going to be”. No longer do we wish, hope or anticipate. No, we are taking action! To do this you are going to have to This is taking stock. Let me give you an example. .
Right? Yes, that’s right. A question opens up our thinking and invites us to a new place where insight can occur. I am reading a book by Charles Kiefer and Malcolm Constable titled, “The Art of Insight.” They define insight as ideas, opinions, mental images, cognitive activities, or any internal activities of the mind that are “fresh”. This means you have a thought that you’ve never experienced before. This kind of fresh thinking comes from intentional effort to think new thoughts. If you started last week doing the morning pages, you have already experienced the enormous value of.
Your concerns, your happiness, your future all depend on your thought life. It’s imperative to think about how you think. Other wise your mind will run on auto-pilot. Concerns turn into worries. Happiness becomes elusive. Your future becomes murky. Why? Because if left unchallenged, the mind works with its current frameworks, the knowledge it already contains, chock full of past experiences that predetermine outcomes. So, how do you think about what you think? Step One: Start to release, capture, and consider your thoughts. My favorite strategy to think about how you think is “morning pages”. This.
No one saw it coming. She was at water aerobics with her YMCA buddies on Wednesday. On Thursday, she stated, “I am going to be couch potato today.” By Friday, she was in the hospital. On Monday, she was in heaven. Kate, my mother-in-law, was a transcendent woman although she came from humble beginnings. Raised in the mountains of North Carolina, the baby of eleven children, Kate experienced hard won lessons that she turned into blessings. With the nickname “Annie Oakley” Kate was responsible for watching over the lambs on their family farm. On more than one occasion, she ‘got her.
I can’t put a price tag on the time, money, and energy invested into the nurturing of relationships. Rich and rewarding relationships are laden with connections. I connect with colleagues, family and friends in a myriad of ways for countless reasons. However, the most valuable gift I glean from my personal relationships is a network of wisdom. I am conscious to the fact that I have been blessed by a simple reality that I have individuals that surround me with their countless experiences. Just think about it! I have 100’s if not 1000’s of wise connections that I can draw.
I am grateful. I have consciousness. I am aware of my potential. I am aware of my challenges. I am certain of what could be one moment and riddled with doubt the next. The beauty in this reality is that, I am aware of thoughts I think. That is a gift. Actually, it is the “present”. Living in a manner in which I can notice at any moment what I am thinking, how I am feeling, and then be able to choose an action that helps me live into my potential or overcome a challenge is truly priceless. [Tweet “Consciousness!.
Can’t you remember when you were young and an adult warned you, “Don’t go looking for trouble”? At the time you thought this older, out of touch person was ridiculous. You thought to yourself, ‘Duh, why would I go looking for trouble.’ Chances are you did find some trouble along the way because you lacked vision. You didn’t realize that just going out to see what’s going on could place you in precarious positions. We all know that having no plan and letting things unfold can be dangerous. That’s why you were pressed for a plan, required to check in,.
People that treat me less than “nice” need a “C3”. This is a process that I have developed for organizational culture change. First of all, every individual inside of an organization needs to realize that THEIR behavior is THE behavior that they need to watch the closest. This is a new way of thinking for individuals in families, organizations, corporate America and entrepreneurial endeavors. Essentially, there are four levels of personal leadership: Dysfunctional: Unpredictable behavior and outcomes. Transactional: Do what is required to get paid or get what you want and nothing more. Transformational: Influences others but may.
“Be yourself. The world worships an original.” Ingrid Bergman This month commemorates the day that I popped on the planet. I can’t remember that day exactly but I am pretty sure that my mother was relieved! And I am sure your story is no different. In fact, despite the differences in the place, time, and circumstances of our births, I know that on the day you and I were born someone held the new baby and thought… ‘Look at her…she is packed with potential. She’s practically perfect! Just think of her possibilities.’ Then, what happened? Life happened..
Everywhere I go there are a myriad of communication transmissions trying to fill my mind. The cacophony comes at me relentlessly. There is music blaring, multiple TV’s emitting noise, cell phones ringing, cars alarms beeping, and commentary…unending commentary at every turn. With all this messaging and media bombarding me (and I assume you too), I find that you and I are fatigued mentally, emotionally, spiritually and even physically. All the input our system takes on creates overwhelm. It makes me want to cry! A space is needed to digest and discern what we have seen and heard. What are we.
Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy. ~ Katherine Mansfield (1888 – 1923) People ask me all the time about motivation. They say, “I’m not motivated.” Well, there you are making a proclamation, a choice, taking a stand to stay put. Don’t ever utter those words again. You’ll regret them. Instead . What is required to be motivated is an open, receptive mind placed in an environment where thought patterns can be influenced to change. The word motivation means to be.
It’s my opinion that resilience is the most vibrant virtue an individual can possess. It’s the ability to get moving, remain hopeful and generate ideas. All of us live in a comfort zone. Within these parameters, we have beliefs, habits, and human traits. It’s imperative that we stop and take a look at what we believe. What do you believe about life? Is it a blessing or a curse? You get to decide. Me? I believe it’s a responsibility. I know that each of us have a unique essence that radiates from us. We.
By definition, a leader has followers. Individuals are drawn to you. Your attitude, the way you carry yourself, and the energy you bring to every situation is intentional. Or is it? Are you leading yourself well? Over the last two weeks, I had the privilege and honor to participate in leadership training with The Center for Creative Leadership located in Greensboro, NC as part of Rotary’s Seminar for Tomorrow’s Leaders, a summer leadership experience for outstanding rising juniors and seniors. The Center for Creative Leadership is an amazing ‘top ten in the world leadership training organization’ that.
Two hundred and thirty-six years ago our nation declared independence. Fifty-six men chose freedom and signed the declaration of independence. Together, the founding fathers formulated a plan with happiness as their chief pursuit. I celebrate their independence. Hello! We all plan to celebrate their independence. But before we plan our elaborate 4th of July festivities, I suggest we stop and take a closer look at the foundation of independence. Like any individual born and raised in the United States, culturally I have been programmed to believe that independence is the ultimate goal. Independence is defined as freedom of control, self-rule, autonomy, and.
This is dangerous. It’s a bad habit. Taking only one look and then deciding whether something is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ leads down the path to status quo town where missed opportunities live. Lack of knowledge, the most serious kind of poverty, is the social, economic, and spiritual reality in this place. Don’t go there. It’s easier said than done. I know. I have struggled with being judgmental. I have discerned that my tendency to judge comes from my fear, my lack of consciousness, and the biases I’ve developed over the years. Were you raised in a family or.
The very first thing we encounter in the morning is the irreverent and irritating interruption of the alarm clock. This is just the beginning of the assault of noise and distractions that permeates our days. As our world begins to wake up, televisions, radios, conversations, and appliances begin to create a vibration of chaos all around us. Unnerved, we move from a state of rest to overload before the sun has even come up. Just as a baby starts life in the womb. We need a place from which to birth the day. It must be a dark, quiet, warm.
Habits are things we repeatedly do. Sometimes habits evolve out of pleasure. Sometimes habits evolve out of pain. But at all times, habits evolve from a subconscious desire. This subconscious desire conjures up feelings that either draw us into a behavior that is good for us or a behavior that is bad for us. I know you’ve been there. Hello! Every human on the planet has been there. Let’s say, deep down you really desire someone to hear your story, understand your situation, and be empathic. But a little voice inside says, “Don’t be a bother.” You’re lonely. As I.
Hi! Allow me to introduce myself, I’m Lisa Barnett. I am the Internet marketing coach on the Vibrant Coaching Team. I have been in love with everything Internet and websites for over a decade. I have been the owner of my own web design company for seven years. My passion for Internet marketing came out of a need and desire to help my current clients move forward and connect to their target market. You know the saying, “build it and they will come”? Well, websites need a little more magic than that! Websites need to be search engine optimized,.
Or so we think. But again, all habits exist in our lives because at the unconscious level we believe that there is a reward for this behavior. Noted author, Charles Duhigg in his book, The Power of Habits delineates the three components of habit as: cue, behavior and reward. Perhaps you can relate to my habits? I have a habit of rising early every single morning to read, contemplate the day and its creator, and to formulate a plan of action. The cue in place is the harp ring tone on my iPhone, the smell of coffee just freshly brewed.
Understanding how your emotions affect your energy… Finally! The day is complete. Safe and secure behind the wheel of my sporty yet energy efficient Mazda, I am zoom…zoom…zooming home. Literally, I “Thank God!” I have a 20-minute drive before I pull into the garage and I begin the third phase of my day. I use this precious windshield time to reflect on the day and more specifically I look at how I have expended precious energy. Like you, I am ‘working’ from the time I lift my head from the silk covered feather pillow accompanied by my tufted feather.
We all want the same thing. We want to feel welcome. We want a warm welcome. The minute you encounter someone you either feel it or you don’t. You feel a positive or a negative energy. The energy between two people who first meet is highly charged with energy. The person you are interacting with takes one look at you and they decide, measure, and judge your potential. A first impression can be potentially positive or naively negative. The good news is you get to decide, measure, and use your good judgment to make a positive impact on your own.
I just coached myself in signing up for summer school, I have mapped out a curriculum, outlined personal standards of performance and laid some ground rules. In essence, I set expectations for another critical period of personal development. I am encouraged or ‘in courage’ to begin a new semester. and considered the summer as a next “critical semester”? You just might meet your potential. Learning is a life long journey. Along the path, we find expectations are a responsibility we can’t shirk, a hope we can’t shatter, and opportunities that must be exercised. What do you expect in the next.
It’s time. You can win the war with the clock. You can find time to do the things you want. You simply need to look at four things: Capture Time: You need strategies that help you win or gain control over your day. Control Time: You need structure that supports your strategies. Claim Time: You need to use the gift of time wisely & create boundaries to protect your time that will shape your future in order to… Create the personal and business life you want. Harvey MacKay, one of the first professional business coaches.
Do you invite people in your life to show up with boldness? Does this invitation include one to you? Are you personally looking for opportunities where boldness could be your mode of operation? I suggest you do! At the core of each human, is a hard-core wiring which scientists call DNA. These ladder-like strands are pre-programmed with a myriad of information that even top scholars can’t fully understand but they all agree no two humans are alike. Each person we meet will have a different perspective, a strong creative bent, and a unique capacity. Remember, the boldness.
I love boldness. I believe boldness is a virtue and a virtue is a character quality that displays moral excellence. When I see it demonstrated, I am stirred by the passion of someone risking acceptance. In our politically correct world, boldness has taken a back seat to compromise. When the ”bold ones” show up, they are in a state of willingness. Willingness is not reserved, restrained, or remorseful. Bold ones surprise us, delight us, and excite us. They are acting on their beliefs and carrying out actions that move the world forward. Think of Susan G Komen’s sister who started.
People tell me the most incredible stories of overcoming adversity. They inspire me. I think this could be made into a Lifetime made for TV movie! Why is it that we have these challenges and heartbreaks? If you ask me it’s because we must have the capacity to move through it. The person with the right character, the right skills, and the right attitude usually gets the job in the interview, right? So, it is with us. The world needs examples of how to navigate treacherous territory. I am sure you’ve been through some things that are mind boggling..
Deep inside each of us there is a tender almost raw place that longs to find justice. We know there is a wrong in the world that must be addressed. There is a cause that we must support. There is a change that must happen. The spark to change is an acknowledging our discontent. Once it is acknowledged you can flame the spark and turn it into passion. Growing up I lost my mom to cancer at age 6. As far back as I can remember, she was sick. The cancer, its treatment, and the fight for her survival.
Deep levels of communication nourish relationships like nothing else. Every person on the planet is trying to figure why they are here. We long to define the meaning of life! When we listen to people, we hold a space for them to become who they are. If just asked, we can open up the minds of the people we love by asking them questions and providing a safe space for them to release their hopes, dreams, and most importantly their fears. Dialogue is a powerful coaching technique that can be used in each and every one of your.
Trust is the glue that keeps a relationship together. As Once we lose it, it takes enormous time, energy, money and effort to earn it back. An individual knows how to behave and encourages others through his/her example to permeate their relationships with trust. This takes some serious self-mastery. You must read the book by Stephen Covey, called The Speed of Trust. Every man, woman and child should know and practice the ideals and the behaviors that demonstrate trust: 1. Straight talk. 2. Demonstrate respect. 3. Create transparency. 4. Right wrongs. 5. Show loyalty. 6. Get better. 7..
Margaret is right. I need you and you need me. Together there is love and apart there is only loneliness. Being an individual of character and integrity requires a superior consciousness with regard to our relationships. The reality is that we have at least 50% of the power to make a relationship powerful, loving and meaningful. In order to make your relationships powerful, you can take a next right step to . Define your relationships. It’s imperative to have an understanding of the context of your relationship. A conversation about expectations inside a relationship can avoid hurt feelings and.
You depend on relationships. And the keys to productive relationships-whether in a billion dollar organization or in a marriage—are as basic as earth, water, wind, and fire. I want to challenge you to Using the concepts of the elements, unlocks the doors of communication. The result? Powerful new possibilities for collaboration, change, and success. The aim of using the elements is to create a genesis…a new beginning. You can take the elemental makeup of your own personality, and that of another individual, and create a powerful conduit for your goals. If you are passionate about your life, your.
What specific advice do you give clients and others to help folks from procrastinating? People don’t fulfill their resolutions and goals because they haven’t moved their thinking from their head to their heart. To stop procrastinating, individuals have to stop and reflect on what is really going on in their life. I insist clients make a comprehensive list of the roles they play. I ask them to answer this question: a volunteer, a board member, an employee or an entrepreneur?” An individual’s resolutions/goals must then be aligned with their roles. It’s likely that their goals do align with their.
Our culture has an “action” agenda. We are doers. We believe to accomplish something, we must do something. This is indeed valuable but only to a certain point: the point where physical action cannot accomplish a goal. When it comes to getting results, passionate intention is more important than action. You must be willing. Willingness is a frame of mind, which is open to every possible demand, without judgment, reservation, or refusal. Because it is an open state of mind, it has great power. Willingness must govern our passionate desires for a specific outcome. Where MUST you take the lead?.
Part 2 of the “Are you Willing?” Blog In the passion zone, you can see three perspectives clearly. Not only is your mind engaged but your heart is too. Not many people realize that there are cells in your heart that are just like the cells in your brain. These cells bring a deeper understanding to the power of the work you are engaging in. So, if you ever thought ‘My heart knows what I must do.’ It did. And so it was in my case. I knew that I had to join the Leukemia Team in Training. I.
This is the first in my three blog series about willingness. Leading with Passion for a Cause Creates Three Perspectives for a Powerful Outcome I was standing in front of a little girl named Kenna. I was getting the message loud and clear. I chided myself, ‘Nicole, you have got to do this. You must run the marathon.’ Kenna was 8 years old, 4 foot tall, no hair, and an incredible stage presence. She understood her situation and was willing to do what she could do. She bravely and bluntly told me and my want to be running buddies,.
I am not a philosopher. I am not a theologian. I am not a logician. I am not a theorist. However, I do explore philosophies. I crave a deeper theology. I long for logic and seek theories to embrace. But, what I really want for Christmas is wisdom. Wisdom is the great gift. Wisdom simply put is knowing right from wrong. A wise individual seeks to understand people, things, events, and situations with an uncanny ability to effectively and efficiently apply knowledge to produce positive results. Let’s consider the Christmas story of the three magi. The magi or wise.
Your presence is the real present. My favorite holiday treat is anticipation. Anticipation is the essence of the holidays. It’s sweet and savory. I joyfully participate in the daily ritual of changing the numbers on my holiday countdown calendar, I shop and plan for the morning when the gifts I have carefully chosen will be received with squeals of delight. I envision my shopping prowess celebrated with the cries of family and friends who stand in awe of the perfect present. But then, reality hits. The vast array of options at the mall, the endless Internet sites, and in.
Again, let me share this powerful quote… Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go to it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”- Dr. Howard Thurman Dr. Thurman is asking us to consider our gifts and talents! The problem is a lot people don’t know. They haven’t taken the time to figure this out or they suffer from an inability to claim their talents because they are too close. Just think about how you might compliment a friend on their success and they say, “That? It was nothing.” And.
Quote to Memorize: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go to it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”- Dr. Howard Thurman Word to Know and Own: genius n.: a single strongly marked capacity or aptitude b: extraordinary intellectual power especially as manifested in creative activity c: a person endowed with transcendent mental superiority What makes you come alive? Think about the last time you were enthused, enlightened, or energized by your circumstances. Your sight was magnified. Your ears heard things they never heard before. You tasted life.
Preparing for the holidays conjures up to do lists that include: shopping, cooking, travel and a myriad of external chores that we perceive must get done. This is the root cause of holiday stress. While I understand that tasks do in fact have to be completed, the reality is that we choose a mindset that is charged with expectations that tap our energy and leave us stressed out. A wise mentor once told me, “Expectations are a premeditated opportunity to be disappointed.” Perhaps you find yourself thinking, ‘If, I am to survive the holidays my only choice is to buckle.
Gratitude is the greatest of mindsets. It is an open, spacious, welcoming approach to life. It’s quiet yet powerful. [Tweet “Gratitude comes out of a simple action…noticing. “] Slowing down to take a good look around can help us gain perspective on what is really good in our life. Let’s consider these powerful questions: Describe the love you receive from another… Whether it’s your dog, your mother or the mate of your dreams, there is someone in your life who cares. Share details about something beautiful you possess? Perhaps, you have a family heirloom, a lesson you’ve learned,.
For my third blog on destiny, I’d like to share a simple practice to be deliberate in beginning your day. My mentor, Ann, shared “A Deliberate Beginning” with me in 2009 and I use it everyday. I have witnessed incredible growth in my own life from harnessing the power of this little practice. I have more confidence, more courage, and more creativity simply because I do this: Start your Day with a Deliberate Beginning Rise early and find a space to sit quietly. Take stock of what your day holds. Observe the opportunities that the day holds. Choose to embrace.
My last blog discussed taking hold of life’s reins and writing your destiny. Now, I’d like to talk about how destiny can manifest. I believe that destiny starts in the form of a dream that takes hold of your mind. You have some ideas or thoughts about what you could do with your life. These types of thoughts, or dreams, come to us constantly. We may be sleeping or discover an epiphany during our waking hours. Either way, we should never discount the dreams that enter into our minds. When these thoughts come, you stand in choice. You can.
This is the first in my three blog series about Destiny. I believe we all have an ordained destiny harbored inside our being. It’s just waiting to be recognized and ultimately to be revered. What’s your destiny? A destiny is defined as: a predetermined course of events often held to be an irresistible power. Destiny is a deepconcept and perhaps even as you are reading these words you are thinking that long-term destiny is just too much to think about. Maybe the little voice inside your head is telling you, “Destiny? It’s not mine to control!” .
The Zappos organization made an impressive jump up Fortune Magazine’s 100 Best Companies to Work For in the 2011 survey. Moving from number 15 to number 6, on this coveted list of employers is a testimony to Zappos’ drive to be an employer of choice. “Becoming an employer of choice can be both an effective human resources strategy and a competitive business advantage for winning the battle to attract and retain loyal, high-performance talent.” (Robak, 2007) Effective is an understatement in the case of Zappos. In our down economy, Zappos managed to increase job growth in 2011 by 37%..
“Relationships are all there is. Everything in the universe only exists because it is in relationship to everything else. Nothing exists in isolation. We have to stop pretending we are individuals who can go it alone.” – Margaret L. Wheatley Margaret is right. I need you and you need me. Together there is love and apart there is only loneliness. Leading a vibrant life requires a superior consciousness with regard to our relationships. The reality is that we have at least 50% of the power to make a relationship powerful, loving and meaningful. In order to make your relationships powerful,.
An opportunity to serve in a powerful way popped into my life this week. I was thrilled when it came my way, but the reality was I had already set aside Friday to work on my homework, get caught up and provide a buffer for my energy. But, this opportunity could not be turned down. An acquaintance from the church I previously attended, asked me speak to her dear friend’s high school classes at Cox Middle School in Cabarrus County. When she emailed me, I was immediately energized by the idea of serving teens. I presented one of my programs,.
Writing a mission and vision statement for your life unlocks the door to your future, your potential, and the possibilities. Join me in the journey to meeting your future self! I used the Franklin Covey website to devise my mission statement for 2012 that you can read below. Let me know what you come up with by emailing me at email@example.com. I’d love to hear from you! Visit The Franklin Covey Website to get started! Franklin Covey Mission Statement Nicole Greer’s Mission and Vision Statement 2012 I am at my best when I share my energy, experience and knowledge through.
The Golden Psalm Each morning you wake. You pad across the bedroom floor as you make your way to the bathroom where you take a good look in the mirror. What do you see? A reflection of who you are on the outside. Most of us stop, take a look and consider ‘Is this all I have to work with?’ Thanks be to God…No! You have a living God who is speaking to you daily in your every waking moment. Simply stated…we must pay attention to our lives and take refuge in a good God (vs. 1-2). In Psalm 16,.